Marriage must be protected from Third Parties

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Marriage Must be Protected from Third Parties:

Marriage Must be Protected from Third Parties The Marriage institution is under lots of threats from Third Parties. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 1

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Marriage is designed to be an exclusive club, a two-person arrangement that provides a safe place for each spouse’s soul. There is no space for a third party to receive an equal share in a marriage, because that can easily disrupt the safety of the relationship. Friday, July 15, 2016 2 Kigume Karuri

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With a third party present, our love gets divided. A part of our heart is taken away from our spouse, where it belongs, and brought to an outside source. Friday, July 15, 2016 3 Kigume Karuri

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Many married couples experience relationship changes over time. During the first years of the relationship, they spent time together just talking with each other. Friday, July 15, 2016 4 Kigume Karuri

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They share joys, hurts, and hearts. There is closeness between the two of them that makes them want to get to know one another more and more. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 5

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As the relationship progresses, the constraints of everyday life seem to take control of the marriage: children, career, friends & relatives, church, etc. These bring conflicts and in the end a burden in the marriage. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 6

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The couple then realizes that their relationship revolves more around such things and people than around each other. The closeness between the two seems to have disappeared. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 7

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Although both spouses realize how much they suffer from that, they have no idea how to deal with the emptiness that has crept into their marriage. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 8

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We let the outside intrude into our marriage. It just happens. . . because we do not protect our marriage actively . Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 9

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There are many things in the world that compete for our love, and sometimes these forces are so strong that they get between us and our spouse and diminish our relationship. Here are a few examples: Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 10

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Colleagues Children  Friends  In-laws  Church members  Financial investment groups etc Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 11

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These can be destructive for a relationship, when they come between a couple’s love. The pressures, temptations and even genuinely good opportunities coming from the outside are limitless. They don’t wait for invitation to intrude into our marriage – they show up by themselves. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 12

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If we want to prevent that from happening, we must become active and protect our marriage. We have to recognize the dangers and put up well balanced boundaries, before these things come between us and our spouse. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 13

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We need to learn to say no to them, before they have become so strong, that we can’t seem to fend them off anymore. We must learn to work diligently but to say no to excessive demands of our boss at work, as they will grow if we give in to them too often. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 14

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We have to teach limits to our children, so that they learn to respect our need to spend time without them. We have to learn to honor our parents while still being able to say no to them. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 15

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Whatever or whoever we’re dealing with – we have to make clear that only one human being can have top priority in our life. And that is our spouse. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 16

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We must guard our marriage, so that the outside world cannot separate it. We must protect its core ; the love between husband and wife. This doesn’t come for free ;it will cost us a lot. But our marriage is only as strong as what we invest into it. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 17

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If we do not put a very high value on what will make our marriage grow, then other influences will take over. But if we invest into our marriage and spend time, effort, and sacrifice in protecting our marriage from such influences, the chances for having a rock solid marriage are quite high. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 18

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Married love requires a great deal of safety for true intimacy to grow, as it brings out the most vulnerable and fragile parts of our personality. Where there is safety, we can come out of our isolation and self-centeredness and work together on our individual weaknesses. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 19

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But with a third party involved, there is not enough safety for these parts to emerge and the bond between the two spouses cannot grow stronger. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 20

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To say yes to your marriage, you must be able to say no to other things. You simply do not have the time, resources, and energy to do everything you want and to please everyone around you. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 21

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If you do not learn to say no to others, you will eventually find out that you have been saying no to your marriage all the time. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 22

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Marriage involves more than keeping the love between you and your spouse alive. It also means forsaking, or leaving behind other things. Genesis 2:24 ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh ’. ( NKJV) Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 23

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Keeping third parties out of our marriage does of course not mean that we should spend all of our time only with our spouse and that any outside relationship and activity is bad or an act of disloyalty. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 24

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Marriage was designed by God as a union between a man and a woman that leads to a more meaningful and fruitful life. Our spouse is our prime address for finding comfort, help, truth and growth. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 25

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We have to learn to avoid extremes and find the right balance. We need outside relationships and activities to get some of our needs met that our spouse simply cannot meet. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 26

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But at the same time we have to make sure that these external influences do not intrude into our marriage and take a part of our heart away from our spouse. Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 27

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The priority is your marriage is your spouse. Ensure he/she is happy in this union. Take all the time to be a blessing to your spouse Kigume Karuri Friday, July 15, 2016 28

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