SEX BEFORE OR OUTSIDE MARRIAGE

Is SEX before or outside Marriage a good or bad thing? :

Is SEX before or outside Marriage a good or bad thing?

Do we have anything in common?:

Do we have anything in common? We are all human beings We have similar emotions We grieve when a person we love dies We feel sympathy for a person who is grieving We want to be happy and live in peace

What makes us happy?:

What makes us happy? Happiness comes when a desire is fulfilled Hungry man finds food -> happy Different levels of desire To live -> Physiological desires To be safe -> Desire to be safe To belong -> Desire for love and community To live a worthwhile life -> Desire for self-esteem To realize potential -> Desire for self-actualization

How about sexual desire?:

How about sexual desire? If we don’t have sex will we die? Are there right and wrong about sex? Rape - universally condemned Incest - universal taboos Adultery - who wants? All societies have rules about who can have sex with whom, when and where Customs represent cumulative wisdom All teach wrong to have sex outside marriage

Sex as gender:

Sex as gender All the traits, emotional, physical and mental that make a person masculine or feminine Men and women are different Men are from Mars Women are from Venus

What is the meaning of sex?:

What is the meaning of sex? Deep personal encounter with another person Many different levels Way to express and receive love Mystical experience

Marriage:

Marriage A socially recognized lifelong union of a man and woman for love, companionship, mutual support procreation upbringing of children

Aspects of marriage:

Aspects of marriage Sexual - quality of sex depends on quality of love Affirmation of personhood Affirmation of sexual identity Reconciliation, healing Act of hope Expression of thanks

Why get married?:

Why get married? Personal commitment Public commitment Joining of families Change of status Celebration Children

How about sex before marriage?:

How about sex before marriage ? Devalues self Devalues sex Break ups Unwanted pregnancy

Outside of marriage:

Outside of marriage Many societies are based around notionally monogamous relationships However, it is relatively common for both men and women to engage in sexual activity with additional partners

Infidelity:

Infidelity Prevalence of sexual infidelity difficult to measure for obvious reasons. Some estimates from the US: Sexual infidelity occurs in 20-25% of marriages ( Wiederman , 1997) 65-75% of university students have had some degree of ‘extradyadic involvement’ whilst in a ‘serious’ relationship (Shackelford et al, 2000)

Infidelity:

Infidelity That infidelity serves different purposes in M & F is supported by other evidence e.g. M less likely to forgive, more likely to break up with sexually, rather than emotionally unfaithful partner (Shackelford et al, 2002) F seem more sensitive than M to emotional infidelity (Hall & Fincham, 2004)

Infidelity & Parental Investment:

Infidelity & Parental Investment