HDEV 301 Week 6

HDEV 301 : 

HDEV 301 Week 6

Very Few People : 

Very Few People Like conflict When people are asked to find images, they are almost always negative

Three Things Make Conflict Worse : 

Three Things Make Conflict Worse Our need to be right Ephesians 5:21: Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Our need to be seen by others as we see ourselves, but think about Then he said to them all: “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me...” Our need to be heard Philippians 2:3-4: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Purposes of Conflict : 

Purposes of Conflict Strengthens our relationships with others (Romans 12:18) Turns us back to the Truth (Ps. 130:3-4) Helps us to comfort others (I Cor. 1:3-5) Strengthens our relationship with God (Ps. 142:1-2) Helps us grow (Romans 5:3-5)

Common Causes of Conflict : 

Common Causes of Conflict Perceived rule violation Value Differences Role Pressure Perceptual Differences Divergent goals (Perceived incompatible goals) Status conflict

Making Sense of a Conflict : 

Making Sense of a Conflict What does it mean? What factors contribute to the cause? What is at the root of the cause? What are some of the symptoms of the cause?

Options for Responding to Conflict : 

Options for Responding to Conflict Who will be the focus?

It’s All About You : 

It’s All About You Takes a passive approach Avoiding Accommodating

It’s All About Me : 

It’s All About Me Passive-Aggressive Aggressive Verbal Physical

It’s All About Us : 

It’s All About Us Active Approach Compromise Collaboration

STLC : 

STLC Stop Think Listen Communicate

Messages in Conflict : 

Messages in Conflict I feel . . . When you . . .Because . . . I’d like to . . . .

Forgiveness : 

Forgiveness Is NOT the same as reconciliation or restoration It’s hard God expects it of us If for no other reason, forgive for your own sake

Understanding Forgiveness : 

Understanding Forgiveness Need to distinguish between Guilt Shame Regret We ask and grant forgiveness with others over things that create guilt We ask and grant forgiveness mostly from ourselves and God over things that cause shame

Five Stages of Forgiveness and Reconciliation : 

Five Stages of Forgiveness and Reconciliation Unforgiveness Solitary/Obedient forgiveness Relational forgiveness Reconciliation Restoration