Personal effectiveness

PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS: 

PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS Suresh P. Nair [AIE, ME, (PhD)] MIEEE Professor & Head Department of Electronics and Communication Engineering Royal College of Engineering and Technology Chiramanangad PO, Akkikkavu, Thrissur, Kerala, India

What is PERSONALITY?: 

What is PERSONALITY? Suresh. P 2 Personal Effectiveness

What is PERSONALITY?: 

What is PERSONALITY? Personality is what makes a person who they are. The totality of qualities and traits, as of character or behavior, that are peculiar to a specific person. PERSONALITY IS WHAT U CONTAIN PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT Suresh. P 3 Personal Effectiveness

Personal Effectiveness: 

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What is the greatest thing that you have done in your life? Suresh. P 5 Personal Effectiveness

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The greatest thing in our life is that which make ourself HAPPY Suresh. P 6 Personal Effectiveness

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Life is a search, a continuous search for happiness Suresh. P 7 Personal Effectiveness

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Make others happy Surprised to see yourself becoming happy “I am unique Never to be repeated” Suresh. P 8 Personal Effectiveness

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Our contribution is also unique Cannot be done by anybody with the same perfection Our own strengths and weaknesses Suresh. P 9 Personal Effectiveness

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WE SEARCH FOR HAPPINESS, BUT HAPPINESS IS WITHIN US Suresh. P 10 Personal Effectiveness

Life Skills: 

Life Skills Communication and Interpersonal Skills Attitude Building Decision-Making and Critical Thinking Skills Interpersonal Skills Time Management Stress Management Anger Management Change Management Goal setting skills Teamwork/collaboration skills Leadership skills Suresh. P Personal Effectiveness 11

Exercise: 

Exercise 1000 40 1000 30 1000 20 1000 + 10 = The moment you saw ‘+’ and ‘=‘ symbols, you realized that you reached the most important section of the problem, you made the mistake. Chance for making mistakes at IMPORTANT DECISION STAGES Suresh. P 12 Personal Effectiveness

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Admitting the mistakes is the sign of growth One of the life skills :- Skill to meet important decision making stages. Suresh. P 13 Personal Effectiveness

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Why do we suffer? Sense of INSECURITY Lack of Confidence Not sure about ourself Sense of GUILT Sense of FEAR Lack of LOVE & AFFECTION SUSPICIOUS Suresh. P 14 Personal Effectiveness

Bullets: 

Bullets Determinism Theory Negative World View Changing Environment YOU Beware the Bullets! Negative Environment Past Experiences Other People’s Behavior Ouch! Suresh. P 15 Personal Effectiveness

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- E veryone fighting to get ahead - No one appreciates your contributions - Too much work . . . not enough help - Deadlines are unrealistic - Longer hours . . . additional work - Budget Constraints - Competition is eating us alive - Poor management / direction - Job insecurity Negative Environment Suresh. P 16 Personal Effectiveness

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Other People’s Behavior Bulldozers Snipers Exploders Clams Patronizers Complainers Controllers Backstabbers Walking Wounded Negatives Gossips Brown Nosers Sluffers Whiners Suresh. P 17 Personal Effectiveness

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Changing Environment Challenges our paradigms Alters the way we think Makes life more difficult for a while Causes Stress Is an ongoing fact of life Change …. Suresh. P 18 Personal Effectiveness

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Past Experiences Ouch! Ouch Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! Suresh. P 19 Personal Effectiveness

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Media Frenzy Negative World View A recent Statistic: Crime down 20% in America reporting up 600% , Look at what you are looking at !!! Suresh. P 20 Personal Effectiveness

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GENETIC : My Grandparents did it to me. (Inherited traits) PSYCHIC : My Parents did it to me. (Upbringing) ENVIRONMENTAL : My Spouse, my Boss, the Company, the Economy, etc.. is doing this to me. (Surroundings) Determinism Theory Suresh. P 21 Personal Effectiveness

Life’s Little Question: 

“Are some people just born positive thinkers . . . or is it their CHOICE ?” Life’s Little Question Suresh. P 22 Personal Effectiveness

Choose the Right Luggage: 

Choose the Right Luggage Dodge Bullets Be Bulletproof Suresh. P 23 Personal Effectiveness

The Problem With Dodging Bullets: 

You’re going to get hit! The Problem With Dodging Bullets Suresh. P 24 Personal Effectiveness

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Wear Bulletproof Armor Suresh. P 25 Personal Effectiveness

Bulletproof Armor Comes from : 

Bulletproof Armor Comes from SELF CHANGE Suresh. P 26 Personal Effectiveness

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Who is responsible for all this? I Suresh. P 27 Personal Effectiveness

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UNDERSTAND DEVELOP SELF Suresh. P 28 Personal Effectiveness

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To get rid of these sufferings, UNDERSTAND OURSELF & DEVELOP Suresh. P 29 Personal Effectiveness

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What are the benefits u get when you start developing? Take charge of one’s life Cope better with one’s feelings Improve Relationships Maturity in problem solving Reduce tension Improve health Improve sense of Pride Improve HAPPINESS Suresh. P 30 Personal Effectiveness

Circle of CONCERN & INFLUENCE: 

Circle of CONCERN & INFLUENCE Circle of CONCERN Circle of INFLUENCE Suresh. P 31 Personal Effectiveness

Circle of CONCERN & INFLUENCE: 

Circle of CONCERN & INFLUENCE Circle of CONCERN Circle of INFLUENCE Suresh. P 32 Personal Effectiveness

Circle of CONCERN & INFLUENCE: 

Circle of CONCERN & INFLUENCE Circle of CONCERN Circle of INFLUENCE Suresh. P 33 Personal Effectiveness

PAIN Vs PLEASURE: 

PAIN Vs PLEASURE Period 1 Period 2 Pattern 1 PAIN PLEASURE Pattern 2 PLEASURE PAIN

Time Management: 

Time Management Understanding the ‘importance’ is vital Unimportant Less Important More Important Vitally Important Suresh. P Personal Effectiveness 35

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URGENT NOT URGENT I M P O R T A N T U N I M P O R T A N T Q1 BURN OUT Q1 DISASTER Q3 IRRESPONSIBLE Q2 EFFECTIVE Suresh. P 36 Personal Effectiveness

COMMUNICATION SKILLS: 

THE ABILITY TO VEBALIZE THE THOUGHTS/ IDEAS/FEELINGS. COMMUNICATION SKILLS Suresh. P 37 Personal Effectiveness

ACTIVITIES TO BUILD COMMUNICATION: 

WRITE ARTICLES / FEATURES / REPORTS / EDITIORIALS FOR NEWSLETTERS ETC. INVOLVE IN ORGANISING CAMPUS EVENTS. ACTIVE PARTICIPATION IN CULTURAL / STUDENTS’ OR TEACHERS’ ORGANISATIONS. PARTICIPATE IN EXTEMPORE / DEBATE / GROUP DISCUSSION . ACTIVITIES TO BUILD COMMUNICATION Suresh. P 38 Personal Effectiveness

ACTIVITIES TO BUILD COMMUNICATION: 

PARTICIPATE IN DRAMATIC GROUP / CLUB. HAVE EXPERIENCE OF OTHER JOBS. DEVOTE SOME TIME FOR VOLUNTEER WORK. ACTIVITIES TO BUILD COMMUNICATION Suresh. P 39 Personal Effectiveness

LEADERSHIP SKILLS: 

THE ABILITY TO LEAD, GATHER RESOURCES, COACH AND GUIDE OTHERS TOWARD A COMMON GOAL. LEADERSHIP SKILLS Suresh. P 40 Personal Effectiveness

LEADERSHIP SKILLS: 

THIS REQUIRES UNDERSTANDING OF YOUR OWN LEADERSHIP STYLE . IDENTIFYING THE ACHIEVEMENT, MOTIVATIONS. UNDERSTANDING ABILITIES OF OTHERS. ABILITY TO LEAD BY CORRECT EXAMPLE. LEADERSHIP SKILLS Suresh. P 41 Personal Effectiveness

ACTIVITIES TO BUILD LEADERSHIP: 

ACTIVE PARTICIPATION AS OFFICE BEARER IN ANY ORGANISATION . INITIATE A NEW PROGRAMME / SERVICE / RESOURCE . PARTICIPATIONS IN TRAINING PROGRAMMES/ CONFERENCES . ORGANISE AND MANAGE EVENTS-SOCIAL / CULTURAL / SCIENTIFIC . ACTIVITIES TO BUILD LEADERSHIP Suresh. P 42 Personal Effectiveness

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THE ABILITY TO WORK EFFECTIVELY WITH OTHERS AND TO COLLABORATE SUCCESSFULLY. TEAM WORK Suresh. P 43 Personal Effectiveness

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THIS REQUIRES ABILITY TO IDENTIFY THE QUALITIES OF OTHERS . ABILITY TO GET ON WITH OTHERS. ABILITY TO WORK WITH OTHERS USING THEIR IDEAS . ABILITY TO ORGANISE AND APPLY CHANGES REQUIRED TO ENHANCE GROUPEFFECTIVENESS. TEAM WORK Suresh. P 44 Personal Effectiveness

ACTIVITIES TO BUILD TEAMWORK: 

PARTICIPATION IN SOCIO-CULTURAL PROGRAMMES . PARTICIPATION IN A GROUP PROJECT. PARTICIPATION IN MUSICAL / DRAMATICS PRESENTATION . PARTICIPATION IN SOCIAL WORK. ACTIVITIES TO BUILD TEAMWORK Suresh. P 45 Personal Effectiveness

ACTIVITIES TO BUILD TEAMWORK: 

ORGANISATION OF CAREER FAIR / CONFERENCES / EVENTS . PARTICIPATION IN DEBATE / SPEECH. WORKING AS VOLUNTEER. WORKING AS EDITORIAL TEAM MEMBER. ACTIVITIES TO BUILD TEAMWORK Suresh. P 46 Personal Effectiveness

Is there anything IMPOSSIBLE ?: 

Is there anything IMPOSSIBLE ? Use the right instruments and choose the right time , that is. Believe you can, you will. It’s all in your mind. Winning comes from within . Happiness is simply a result of choosing attitudes. Suresh. P 47 Personal Effectiveness

Think and Act : 

Think and Act Thinking first, action only then. Act by all means, but only after considering all relevant matters. Don’t make decisions based on just one or two dimensions. Don’t act impulsively. If you have to act, act fast & decisively.

Learn from the past. Focus on the future. Be in the present. Enjoy.: 

Learn from the past. Focus on the future. Be in the present. Enjoy. The past is finished. Learn from it & let it go. The future is not even here yet. Plan for it, but do not waste time worrying about it. Live in the present . Enjoy its joys.

Laws give freedom: 

Laws give freedom Pencil on a table (one law) Law of gravity Movement of a reptile (two laws) Law of gravity Law of motion A Bird Flying (three laws) Law of gravity Law of motion Law of aerodynamics MORE LAWS OBEYED – MORE FREEDOM Suresh. P 50 Personal Effectiveness

5 steps for effectiveness: 

5 steps for effectiveness Decide what you want to be in your life List all that you do in a day Classify into essentials and non-essentials Retain essentials and discard non-essentials Add new essential ingredients Suresh. P 51 Personal Effectiveness

Winner/Loser: 

Winner / Loser A winner is always a part of the result A loser is always a part of the problem A winner does always have a solution A loser does always have an excuse Says a winner: ”Let me do this for you” Says a loser: ”This is not my job” A winner sees a solution to every problem A loser sees a problem in every solution Says a winner: ”It is difficult, but possible” Says a loser: ”It might be possible, but it is too difficult” YOU choose...

Excellence in life: 

Excellence in life Aim at perfection . Achieve excellence . Develop an instinct for quality. It pays. If it is worth doing, it is worth doing well. Try to do it right at the very first instance . A work done poorly must be done again. Do it in time . “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit.” Suresh. P 53 Personal Effectiveness

Effectiveness: 

Effectiveness Work on 3 dimensions to be effective Personal Effectiveness Interpersonal Effectiveness Professional Effectiveness Suresh. P 54 Personal Effectiveness

Effectiveness Triangle: 

Effectiveness Triangle PERSONAL INTERPERSONAL PROFFESSIONAL Suresh. P 55 Personal Effectiveness

Thank you: 

Thank you Suresh. P Personal Effectiveness 56