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Interpersonal communication Project by Nohemi Ramirez-Chavez : 

Interpersonal communication Project by Nohemi Ramirez-Chavez HSER 508 LU Online August 2010

Introduction : 

Introduction Who am I? Mexican, Female, daughter, sister, aunt, granddaughter, godmother, catholic, sorority sister, friend, student, co-worker, etc. Our identity is multidimensional

Introduction cont. : 

Introduction cont. “ We define identity or self as a constellation of features or labels that establish social expectations that we have of our selves and others,” (Stewart, 2009, p.80). Our identity is shaped by our past, present and future.

Uniquely Me : 

Uniquely Me Through the uniquely you self-assessment I was able to see what my personality patterns tend to be: My Behavioral Blends :This is expected of me: S This is me: C/I/S

This is me: C/I/S : 

This is me: C/I/S C/I/S - COMPETENT INFLUENCING SPECIALISTS "C/I/S's" like to do things right, impress others and stabilize situations. They are not aggressive or pushy people. They enjoy large and small crowds. They are good with people and prefer quality. They are sensitive to what others think about them and their work. They need to be more determined and dominant. They can do things well, but are poor at quick decision-making. They are capable of doing great things through people, but need to be more self-motivated and assertive. They are stimulated by sincere, enthusiastic approval and logical explanations. Controlling Your Behavioral Blends Guard against being judgmental. • Avoid bitterness and resentment. • Step out of your comfort zone. • Be thankful for everything. • Be encouraging and a good example to others. • Take charge and do whatever you need to do.

What is expected from me: “S” : 

What is expected from me: “S” S - STEADY SPECIALISTS Discovering Your Behavioral Blends "S's" are stable and shy types. They do not like changes. They enjoy pleasing people and can consistently do the same job. Secure, non-threatening surroundings are important to them. They make the best friends because they are so forgiving. Other people sometimes take advantage of them. They need to be stronger and learn how to say "No" to a friend who wants them to do wrong. Talking in front of large crowds is difficult for them. They are motivated by sweet and sincere opportunities to help others. Controlling Your Behavioral Blends • Increase your confidence. • Fear not. • Speak out more often. • Be outgoing and less inhibited. • Be assertive. • Don’t be insecure.

Discovery health self-assessment : 

Discovery health self-assessment My communication skills Communication Skills Index Your score = 65 According to this test, your communication skills are very good. You manage to get your point across in a clear, concise way and are also able to listen to others and understand where they're coming from. Until you reach a score of 100, though, there is always room for improvement.

My background and my behavioral blend : 

My background and my behavioral blend Traditional Mexican family Working with public assistance Being in diverse populations

What is interpersonal communication? : 

What is interpersonal communication? Collaborations Choices Culture Identities Conversation Nexting* In other words interpersonal communication is, “the type or kind of communication that happens when people involved talk and listen in ways that maximize the presence of the person,” (Stewart, 2009, p.33). * “doing something next, responding fruitfully to what’s just happened, taking an additional step in the communication process,” (Stewart, 2009, p.30)

Overarching goal : 

Overarching goal To use what I have learned in this course and apply it to my own life. To become a leader and not just a follower. To take more risks and be more assertive. To understand what it is to be an effective communicator.

Enlarging the conversation : 

Enlarging the conversation Now that I know my skills and my weaknesses I know what to look for in my conversations with others. I know that my weaknesses will need to improve, with this in mind I can enlarge my conversation, or in other words improve my dialogue with others for I know what to look for and what to avoid.

barriers : 

barriers Childhood influences “We are often unaware of how our childhood experiences influence our adult behavior,” (Burley-Allen, 1995, p. 39). Solution: develop consciousness of this behavior Being Judgmental “…if our perceptions are positive and nonjudgmental, we will be more receptive to what is going on or being said, which in turn increase our interest,” (Burley-Allen, p. 51). Solution: I need to stop thinking what others are going to say about me and also stop being so critical of others. .

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My fears: Our thought process influences the way we behave: Example: I think that if I interrupt others, It will be wrong, therefore I do not participate in the dialogue, which then I will develop frustrations for I will think that I cannot express my self. If I understand what my thinking process is I can develop a plan on how to open up for dialogue, or understand how to carry a conversation without being quiet of passive in the group. I can give my opinion without feeling that I am being disrespectful or intruding.

Slide 14: 

Focus: Noise pollution can distract us from focusing on our dialogue. If we learn how to eliminate everyone else and focus on our conversation, we can learn how to fully understand what is being said to us and how to communicate more effectively. Another form of noise pollution is our internal thoughts. If we learn how to eliminate our internal thoughts we can focus more on the talker and the contents of the conversation.

Summary of my plan : 

Summary of my plan 1) Practice leadership skills 2) Take initiative 3) Let go of fears 4) Focus

References : 

References Burley-Allen, M. (1995). Listening: the forgotten skill: A self-teaching guide. (2nd ed.). New York: John Wiley & Sons, Inc. ISBN: 0-47101-587-3. Carbonell, M. (2008). How to solve the people puzzle: Understanding personality patterns. Blue Ridge, GA: Uniquely You Resources. ISBN 1-888846-44-5 Petersen, J. C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications. ISBN: 0-9791559-0-8. Stewart, J. (Ed.). (2009). Bridges not walls: A book about interpersonal communication. (10th ed.). Boston: McGraw Hill. ISBN: 9780073384993.