The Role of the HusbandA study of Ephesians 5 : The Role of the HusbandA study of Ephesians 5 Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church Slide 2: Marriage Busters Lack of Respect
Lack of Trust The Husband as Leader : The Husband as Leader Ephesians 5:23
For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body “Head” does not mean “Tyrant”
“Headship” is “Servant-ship” The Husband as Leader : The Husband as Leader Physical Leader
Spiritual Leader Harsh Realities : Harsh Realities Divorce changes the dynamics of most families and makes the husband’s job harder.
2nd husband’s typically have minimal influence over step children
The best thing a husband can do for his stepchildren is to be kind to their mother. Slide 6: Physical Leader But if any provideth not for his own, and specially his own household, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever.
(1 Timothy 5:8 ASV) There’s No Place in God’s Plan for Deadbeat Dads Slide 7: Emotional Leader Provide Encouragement and Support
Provide an Environment for Growth and Maturity
Develop a Sensitivity and Toughness in our Kids It Takes a Real Man to Understand His Wife’s Needs Slide 8: Spiritual Leader How often do you pray with your family?
How often do you read scripture with your family?
Do you set the example in church attendance? Abraham’s Travels Can Be Traced By Alter Fires Slide 9: Finding the Right Imbalance Home
Community The Husband as Lover : The Husband as Lover Sacrificial Love
Strong Love Sacrificial Love : Sacrificial Love Agape: A self sacrificing love
* Not infatuation
* Not necessarily an emotion
* Is a product of the “will”
* A decision to love the unlovely Sacrificial Love : Sacrificial Love Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her Sacrificial Love : Sacrificial Love As Christ loved the Church
Christ gave “self” not “stuff”
1 Peter 1:18-19
Knowing that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, like silver or gold, . . . but with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot. Sacrificial Love : Sacrificial Love The real test is not dying for your family . . .
IT’S LIVING FOR THEM! Harsh Realities : Harsh Realities Men tend to be selfish
Men struggle viewing wife as an equal
Men must “learn” to sacrifice Sanctifying Love : Sanctifying Love Ephesians 5:26-27
26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,
27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. Sanctifying Love : Sanctifying Love Sanctify – Set Apart for Holy Service Sanctifying Love : Sanctifying Love Sanctification begins before Marriage
Pre-marital sex is not sanctifying love!
What do we watch in our homes?
TV, Internet, Movies Sanctifying Love : Sanctifying Love Ephesians 5: 26:
that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,
God sanctifies through His Word and Actions
Husbands must do the same! Harsh Realities : Harsh Realities Men tend to be less spiritual than women
Men struggle to be the spiritual leader
Spiritual leadership is a learned skill Sustaining Love : Sustaining Love Ephesians 5:28-29
28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. Sustaining Love : Sustaining Love Nourish – to bring to maturity
Supply that which brings about growth
Cherish – to soften with body heat
Supply that which brings about security Sustaining Love : Sustaining Love 1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered Sustaining Love : Sustaining Love Live with them with understanding:
Learn what makes your wife tick and what ticks her off.
Giving Honor as the weaker vessel
Hold in high esteem like fine china Sustaining Love : Sustaining Love Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.
The Wife is Not the Enemy!!!
Learn to Recognize the Real Source of Anger! Harsh Realities : Harsh Realities Men tend to be harsh and insensitive
Men tend to let pressures build and then erupt like a volcano
After a “blow up” men want to move on but don’t understand why the wife can’t
Domestic Violence is more common among men than women.
Male Depression is common and often overlooked – medication is not a sign of weakness. Strong Love : Strong Love Ephesians 5:31
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. Strong Love : Strong Love Till Death Do Us Part . . .
God did not institute Divorce! Strong Love : Strong Love I don’t love her anymore . . .
When there is no higher cause to stay married than our own personal happiness, the marriage is headed for failure
When we say we don’t love our spouse anymore, we are farther from God than we are our spouse. A Husband’s Love Should Reflect Christ’s Love for the Church : A Husband’s Love Should Reflect Christ’s Love for the Church Ephesians 5:32-33
32This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Conclusion : Conclusion The Man sets the tone of the home
The best gift a man can give his family is a good relationship with his wife.
The Key to a Good Marriage is God’s Word and Prayer