How to Deal with Children who are Whiners and Complainers

WELCOME Tips on How to Deal withWhiners and Complainers : 

WELCOME Tips on How to Deal withWhiners and Complainers Presented by Kelly Ling HEEA and Homeschool-Articles.com

Look Around : 

Look Around What do you see?

Look Around : 

Look Around What do you see? Lots of other parents!

Look Around : 

Look Around What do you see? Lots of other parents! What does it mean?

Look Around : 

Look Around What do you see? Lots of other parents! What does it mean? YOU’RE NOT ALONE!

Is This Your Child? : 

Is This Your Child?

Here’s Mine! : 

Here’s Mine!

Here’s Mine! : 

Here’s Mine!

Here’s Mine! : 

Here’s Mine!

Here’s Mine! : 

Here’s Mine!

Here’s Mine! : 

Here’s Mine!

Here’s Mine! : 

Here’s Mine!

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation : 

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation Undermines parental authority

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation : 

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation Undermines parental authority Fighting between parent and child

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation : 

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation Undermines parental authority Fighting between parent and child Fighting among siblings

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation : 

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation Undermines parental authority Fighting between parent and child Fighting among siblings Home and schooling becomes out of control

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation : 

What Whining and Complaining Does to a Family/Homeschool Situation Undermines parental authority Fighting between parent and child Fighting among siblings Home and schooling becomes out of control Learning is stifled

Examples of Whining and Complaining : 

Examples of Whining and Complaining Huffing and puffing

Examples of Whining and Complaining : 

Examples of Whining and Complaining Huffing and puffing Stomping off

Examples of Whining and Complaining : 

Examples of Whining and Complaining Huffing and puffing Stomping off Tempter tantrums

Examples of Whining and Complaining : 

Examples of Whining and Complaining Huffing and puffing Stomping off Tempter tantrums Whining

Examples of Whining and Complaining : 

Examples of Whining and Complaining Huffing and puffing Stomping off Tempter tantrums Whining Crying / Yelling

Examples of Whining and Complaining : 

Examples of Whining and Complaining Huffing and puffing Stomping off Tempter tantrums Whining Crying / Yelling Being always angry at others

REMEMBER : 

REMEMBER God made YOU the parent Your child is NOT the parent! Their turn will come.

Your Children are IN TRAINING! : 

Your Children are IN TRAINING! These are your training years. Not only are your helping your child learn academics, you are also training them for adulthood. It takes time and consistency!

Who are These People? : 

Who are These People?

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain : 

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain They are human and born that way.

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain : 

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain They are human and born that way. They are angry.

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain : 

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain They are human and born that way. They are angry. They are bored.

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain : 

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain They are human and born that way. They are angry. They are bored. There is too much going on in their lives.

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain : 

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain They are human and born that way. They are angry. They are bored. There is too much going on in their lives. They are tired or hungry.

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain : 

Reasons Our ChildrenWhine and Complain They are human and born that way. They are angry. They are bored. There is too much going on in their lives. They are tired or hungry They are acting the way they see their parents act.

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In other words, whining just plain WORKS and gets them what they want!

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Why does YOUR child whine and complain?

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Tips for Dealing with Whiners and Complainers

Set Expectations : 

Set Expectations Set expectations and make sure your children understand them.

Set Expectations : 

Set Expectations Set expectations and make sure your children understand them. What behavior is appropriate and expected

Set Expectations : 

Set Expectations Set expectations and make sure your children understand them. What behavior is appropriate and expected What are the consequences

Set Expectations : 

Set Expectations Set expectations and make sure your children understand them. What behavior is appropriate and expected What are the consequences Assign chores and teach your children HOW to do them

Set Expectations : 

Set Expectations Set expectations and make sure your children understand them. What behavior is appropriate and expected What are the consequences Assign chores and teach your children HOW to do them Make sure all of the above is age appropriate for your child

Teach Obedience : 

Teach Obedience Teach your children the importance of obeying you INSTANTLY.

Teach Obedience : 

Teach Obedience Teach your children the importance of obeying you INSTANTLY. It can save their life.

Teach Obedience : 

Teach Obedience Teach your children the importance of obeying you INSTANTLY. It can save their life. It will make their lives easier and create less conflict between parent and child.

Teach Obedience : 

Teach Obedience Teach your children the importance of obeying you INSTANTLY. It can save their life. It will make their lives easier and create less conflict between parent and child. Obedience doesn’t always mean they have to like it.

Teach Obedience : 

Teach Obedience Teach your children the importance of obeying you INSTANTLY. It can save their life. It will make their lives easier and create less conflict between parent and child. Obedience doesn’t always mean they have to like it. It means doing what is requested and required WITHOUT complaining and whining.

Teach Obedience : 

Teach Obedience Teach your children the importance of obeying you INSTANTLY. It can save their life. It will make their lives easier and create less conflict between parent and child. Obedience doesn’t always mean they have to like it. It means doing what is requested and required WITHOUT complaining and whining. Sometimes disobedience should bring on discipline. Even spanking if necessary.

Praise Your Child : 

Praise Your Child APPROPRIATELY praise your child.

Praise Your Child : 

Praise Your Child APPROPRIATELY praise your child. Do not be insincere in your praise.

Praise Your Child : 

Praise Your Child APPROPRIATELY praise your child. Do not be insincere in your praise. Praise their hard work on their chores.

Praise Your Child : 

Praise Your Child APPROPRIATELY praise your child. Do not be insincere in your praise. Praise their hard work on their chores. Praise their work on an exceptionally difficult school problem or project.

Praise Your Child : 

Praise Your Child APPROPRIATELY praise your child. Do not be insincere in your praise. Praise their hard work on their chores. Praise their work on an exceptionally difficult school problem or project. Praise them for their obedience.

Praise Your Child : 

Praise Your Child APPROPRIATELY praise your child. Do not be insincere in your praise. Praise their hard work on their chores. Praise their work on an exceptionally difficult school problem or project. Praise them for their obedience. Praise them for a good or changed attitude.

Are You Doing Too Much? : 

Are You Doing Too Much? Too many late nights – not enough sleep

Are You Doing Too Much? : 

Are You Doing Too Much? Too many late nights – not enough sleep Running constantly to activities and classes

Are You Doing Too Much? : 

Are You Doing Too Much? Too many late nights – not enough sleep Running constantly to activities and classes Not having enough time at home to just unwind and play

Are You Doing Too Much? : 

Are You Doing Too Much? Too many late nights – not enough sleep Running constantly to activities and classes Not having enough time at home to just unwind and play Too many workbooks, not enough hands on activities, book reading time, or just plain fun

Be Consistent : 

Be Consistent Stick to any rules, guidelines, and consequences you have set up for your family.

Be Consistent : 

Be Consistent Stick to any rules, guidelines, and consequences you have set up for your family. If you cave or give in, your children will take advantage of your weakness.

Be Consistent : 

Be Consistent Stick to any rules, guidelines, and consequences you have set up for your family. If you cave or give in, your children will take advantage of your weakness. Parents: ALWAYS BE UNITED in front of your children or they will work to divide and conquer you.

Stop What You Are Doing! : 

Stop What You Are Doing! Listen to your child!

Stop What You Are Doing! : 

Stop What You Are Doing! Listen to your child Are they hurt?

Stop What You Are Doing! : 

Stop What You Are Doing! Listen to your child Are they hurt? Do they just need a few minutes of your attention and a great big hug?

Stop What You Are Doing! : 

Stop What You Are Doing! Listen to your child Are they hurt? Do they just need a few minutes of your attention and a great big hug? If you don’t listen to your children, you will not understand them.

People Are Selfish : 

People Are Selfish People – adults and children alike – that are prone to whining and complaining tend to be very selfish, only wanting what THEY want.

People Are Selfish : 

People Are Selfish People – adults and children alike – that are prone to whining and complaining tend to be very selfish, only wanting what THEY want. Teach them manners.

People Are Selfish : 

People Are Selfish People – adults and children alike – that are prone to whining and complaining tend to be very selfish, only wanting what THEY want. Teach them manners. Teach them to think about others before themselves.

People Are Selfish : 

People Are Selfish People – adults and children alike – that are prone to whining and complaining tend to be very selfish, only wanting what THEY want. Teach them manners. Teach them to think about others before themselves. Find ways for them to serve others.

Finally… : 

Finally… Expect the whining and complaining

Finally… : 

Finally… Expect the whining and complaining Have a plan of action on how you will deal with it

Finally… : 

Finally… Expect the whining and complaining Have a plan of action on how you will deal with it Be consistent in your action and response

Finally… : 

Finally… Expect the whining and complaining Have a plan of action on how you will deal with it Be consistent in your action and response In the end, YOU and YOUR CHILD will change – FOR THE BETTER!

Recommended Resources : 

Recommended Resources Hints on Child Training, H. Clay Trumbull Shepherding a Child’s Heart, Ted Tripp Christian Living in the Home, Jay Adams How to Help Angry Kids, Lou Priolo Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach, Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley What the Bible Says About Child Training, J. Richard Fugate

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