Slide 1: Jyoti srivastava College of Nursing IMS , BHU varanasi Inter Personal Relationship Introduction:: Introduction: No man can live in isolation and survive. Every man depends on others to fulfill his various needs like food, safety, sex, love, recognition, and health etc., he has to maintain cordial relation with all to live comfortably and get others support in difficult times certain relationship makes life enjoyable whereas bad relationship (with parents, children, siblings, grandparents, uncles and aunties) may affect the relationship. Cont.. Introduction Cont…: Introduction Cont… Certain relationships are acquired example spouse, friends, colleagues, and neighbours. Some relationship last longer or even for life whereas some stay only for a short period. Improving and maintaining relationship is a still to be learnt by one and all, many of us lack skill and suffer from strained relationship with one or many. This is one of the cause distress, broken homes, alcohol abuse, crime, aggression, suicide, homicides and psychological diseases. Factors that Influence the Relationship:: Factors that Influence the Relationship: Development and Functioning of the Mind: If ‘ID’ part of mind is very strong person become self centered and selfish. He may not bother to maintain good relationship with others. If ‘Ego’ and ‘Super Ego’ parts of the mind are weak, one may fail to understand the reality and norms of the society. The experience of the child during first five years of life shapes the inter-personal relationship and skill as an individual. Personality Type:: Knowledge, attitude, pattern of action and reactions, controlled expression of emotions, goals and aspirations are the components of personality which develops over a period of 20 long years. Unhealthy personality types leads to disturbed relationship with concerned people. Schizoid (severe introvert), Paranoid (suspicious), Aggressive (fighting), Histrionic (Highly attention seeking), Antisocial borderline (lonely, unstable interpersonal relationship) Personality Type: I.Q. : I.Q. Person with very low IQ fails to develop and maintain meaningful relationship. They cannot adopt to realities of life highly intelligent persons though command respect from others, may get pre-occupied with their work and achievement and neglect relationship. Needs: Needs If needs are fulfilled, the person remains satisfied and is in a position to relate to people, but if needs are very high and not fulfilled, his frustration increases. He may become jealous, blame others and relationship may break. Money and Material: Money and Material Money is essential for living if the person is poor, his own family, friend and relatives neglect him. If he is rich and powerful, others may try to become closer to him for their own gains. Money and power may bring arrogance and disturbs the inter-personal relationship. Communication:: Communication: Good and effective communication is essential for people to understand each other. One has to communicate his views, feelings and needs to others so that they support him. Poor and inadequate communication leads to misunderstanding and misinterpretations, which may spoil the relations. Interest:: Hobbies and activities between two r more individuals help in building meaningful and encouraging relationships. Diverse interests and hobbies may separate people. Interest: Roles:: Each person has to play different roles and each role carries specific responsibilities and expectations. Understanding these roles (as parents, child, siblings, head/leader, care giver, follower) and discharging the duties help in maintaining relationships. Roles: Emotions:: Positive emotions like pleasures, love, kindness, sympathy, pride improve the relationship whereas negative hatred jeopardize the relationships. Appropriate and smooth emotional expressions helps in maintaining relationship Emotions: Self Esteem:: The person should have adequate self-esteem. Both low self-esteem (superiority complex) disturb the relationship. Self Esteem: Health:: Sickness brings dependency it can bring people together and strengthen the relationship. But certain illness makes people to develop negative attitude towards the patients and reject them example Leprosy, Asthma, Epilepsy, Mental illness, AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. In mutual disorders unusual abnormal behaviour may break the relationship. Health: Socio-Cultural and Religious Factor:: Each society and sub-group has their own traditional norms in social relationships e.g. how to treat the guest, how to interact in social gathering, how to react to life events, if person does not follow these norms, his relationship with others may get strained, religious belief and practices, either help to bind or break relationship. Religion brings kinship among people with divergent characteristics but religions fanticism leads to war and violence. Socio-Cultural and Religious Factor: How to Improve Inter-Personal Relationship: : Good inter-personal relationship is essential for health and harmony in the family, work place and society. Here are 12 methods to improve this relationship: How to Improve Inter-Personal Relationship: Slide 17: R – Role responsibilities should be attended to respect others. Slide 18: E – Expect less and empathize more with others. Slide 19: L – Love and affection to be shown unconditionally use good language. Slide 20: A – Appreciate more and criticize less Slide 21: T – Trust others and allows them to trust you. Take less and give more. Slide 22: I – Involve others in your work and activities. Slide 23: O – Oblige to others needs, have an open mind to others views; open yourself, your ideas, feeling to others. Slide 24: N – Negative attitude must be replaced by positive attitude towards others, look at goodness of the people Slide 25: S – Share your feelings, share the resources with others Slide 26: H – Have common hobbies with family, friends and neighbours. Slide 27: I – Insulting others is bad habit, try to avoid. Slide 28: P – Pardon others, act omissions and commission. Use punishment as a last choice.