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THE LAW OF VISION AND SELF TALK
VISION
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SELF TALK
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RE AFFIRMS ACTIONS
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RESULTS
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Self Talk
Pro 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and those to whom it is dear will have its fruit for their food.
Perhaps you’ve been on the other side of the killing kind of messages: “You’re not smart enough. You’re not thin enough. You’re not fast enough. You’re not good enough. A real Christian wouldn’t think such a thing.” In a world where people are beat up and put down, God gives you superhero power to punch through the negativity. You speak life to others when you say: “You matter to me. I like you just the way you are. You’re human, anyone could think that. Your life counts. You were created for a purpose. God loves you, and you’re incredibly valuable to him.” Your words may be the only encouraging thing some people hear in a day, or a week, or a month. You yes, you can become the voice of God’s grace in the lives of others, supporting, loving, helping, and encouraging with the words that flow from your mouth. (Romans 14:19b)
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Summary
15 Styles of Distorted Thinking
1.Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation.
2.Polarized Thinking: Things are black or white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you're a failure. There is no middle ground.
3. Ovcrgcneralization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once you expect it to happen over and over again.
4. Mind Reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you arc able to divine how people are feeling to ward you.
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5.Catastrophizing: You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a, problem and start "what ifs:" What/if tragedy strikes? What if it happens to you?“
6. Personalization: Thinking that everything people do or say is "some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who's smarter, better looking, etc.
7. Control Fallacies: If you feel externally controlled, you sec yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you.
8. Fallacy of Fairness: You feel resentful because you think you know what's fair but other people won't agree with you.
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9.Blaming: You hold other people responsible-for your pain, or take the othertack and blame yourself for every problem or reversal.
10.Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you and you feel guilty if you violate the rules.
11.Emotional Reasoning: You believe that what you feel must be true—automatically. If you feel stupid and boring, then you must be stupid and boring.
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12.Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.
13.Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment.
14.Being Right: You are continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions arc correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your Tightness.
15.Heaven's Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You feel bitter when the reward doesn't come.
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