Chapter 3 Virtues and Character in Couples Counseling

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This chapter focuses on the use of positive psychology, especially virtues of forgiveness and self control with the scientific research on those constructs as useful in couples counseling


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Chapter 3: Making therapy a positive growth experience for couples:

Chapter 3: Making therapy a positive growth experience for couples The Case of Janet and Ron Chapter 3

Key Virtue: Forgiveness:

Key Virtue: Forgiveness We ought to be interested in that darkest and most real part of a man in which dwell not the vices that he does not display, but the virtues that he cannot” - G.K . Chesterton

Using Character Strengths:

Using Character Strengths What are your personal character strengths as a counselor? Do intervention 3-1 on yourself and see what your own personal character strengths are.

This looks like…:

This looks like… Taking an inventory on virtue strengths If I’m strong in showing kindness- my plan then is to do 5 random acts of kindness for my mate If my strength is to take risks for the relationship- my plan is to do a grand romantic gesture. How might couples develop virtues to use in their marriage or relationship?


Self-control Exercising all virtue requires some level of self-control Self-control is a “limited commodity” Depleted when tired, hungry, stressed Hard to use self-control under those conditions

The key virtue is forgiveness:

The key virtue is forgiveness At some point in most relationships, people lose self-control. Unkind words will be said. Injustices will offend. General or specific acts of malicious wounding and suffering are common in families. Responding within the family and outside of the family with forgiveness and its related virtues of grace and humility is necessary. If we keep a short list of wrongs, we can ease the strains on our self-control so that when one person does provoke the other, our self-control has not been depleted.

Interventions for Chapter 3:

Interventions for Chapter 3 3-1 Assessing Personal Character 3-2 Personal Narrative of Self as “Hero” 3-3 Prayer for a Hope and a Future 3-4 Use of Time-out to Develop the “Muscle” of Self-Control 3-5 Interview a Supportive Childhood Friend or Mentor 3-6 Creative Building of Personal Strengths 3-7 Building a New Strength 3-8 Self-care Interventions 3-9 Insight-oriented Interventions 3-10 Partner-Assisted Intervention (PAI) 3-11 Developing Wisdom 3-12 Locating the Warmth Virtues in My Relationships (Worksheet)

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