1. Recognition and Acceptance :
1. Recognition and Acceptance Recognize the pain, the source of the pain, and accept that your present situation is not a happy one.
Recognize that you are not alone and accept the fact that you can’t control how anyone other than YOU is feeling. You can’t control how the person who hurt you is feeling. What you can do, however, is learn how to forgive.
2. Even good people make horrible mistakes sometimes. :
2. Even good people make horrible mistakes sometimes. Even if what was done to you is horrible, that doesn’t necessarily mean that the person who did it is horrible.
Try separating the person from his or her behavior. This can be very difficult to do – especially if it hurts you to face that person. Spend some time thinking about the good qualities that he or she possesses
3. Try getting all of the anger out of your system once and for all. :
3. Try getting all of the anger out of your system once and for all. Whether you have to punch a pillow or scream until you lose your voice, you need to release all of the pent-up frustration inside of you.
Promise yourself that once you are done, you will feel much better. Give yourself some time to release the anger and the pain, and then you can get started with the healing process.
4. Release both the offender and yourself from the pain. :
4. Release both the offender and yourself from the pain. Forgiveness is 100% YOUR responsibility!
Even if the offender doesn’t seem to care one way or another, you still need to forgive him or her for your own sake.
Holding a grudge will only make you feel worse.
5. Moving On :
5. Moving On Let the person who harmed you know that you forgive him or her. Whether or not that person responds positively is something over which you have no control.
The only thing you can control is your forgiveness. Once you are able to forgive not just the offender but yourself, you will finally be able to move on with your life.
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