Slide 1:www.social8.com.au tips to living life as a single person happily and to meeting someone special www.social8.com.au


Slide 2:Decide to be pro-active today Many people waste two or three years ‘thinking’ about being pro-active in meeting new single people. Don’t waste any more time. Mr. or Ms. right will not come knocking on your door while your sitting at home. There is no better time than right now to join a club, say yes to invites or get a new hobby. Get out amongst it. www.social8.com.au


Slide 3:Feeling lonely is ok Recognizing and owning your feelings enables you to find solutions Making same gender single friends helps to elliveate a feeling of loneliness, which many single people feel as most of their friends may be in relationships. www.social8.com.au


Slide 4:Prepare, prepare, prepare This will help you to feel good about yourself which will result in a more confident you. Visualise positively that which you are embarking on. Be it a first time meeting, a date or a dinner with new friends. www.social8.com.au


Slide 5:Appearance does count While we don’t want someone who is only after our looks, understand we are all visual creatures and first impressions count. You only get one chance to make a first impression, get it right. Be true to yourself however feel good about yourself too. Get a hair cut, go to the gym, buy new contemporary clothes. Feel and look great www.social8.com.au


Slide 6:Learn to converse well Do you talk too much, do you listen at all? Do you wait for others to bring you into a conversation or dominate and not care what others say? It is crucial to find a balance here. Learn to initiate, listen, contribute and respect others in both conversation and opinion. www.social8.com.au


Slide 7:Be interesting & interested Communication is so important in building relationships. Prepare a list of items that you are interested in talking about and feel can contribute easily and confidently. Write up a list of questions to ask those you are meeting. Then relax knowing you are well prepared www.social8.com.au


Slide 8:Use good manners Nothing turns people off quicker than bad manners. There is no excuse for not using good manners. Familiarity should not be an excuse for bad manners…ever. Using good manners is a sign of respect for yourself and those you are with. www.social8.com.au


Slide 9:It’s a numbers game You need to meet as many people as possible to find ‘the one’. Make many new friends and meet their friends to expand your circle, just like we all did in our 20’s. Ensure your socializing is producing a perpetual state of increasing, not decreasing. www.social8.com.au


Slide 10:Careful of judgment By putting people quickly into categories or boxes, you are missing out on great opportunities to meet interesting people and potential new friends Do you wish to be judged in the first few minutes of meeting? If no…then don’t do it yourself. Give everyone a chance to shine. Scratch the surface and see what you may find. People are interesting….if given the chance, always! . www.social8.com.au


Slide 11:Relax and don’t look for the one OK this is a hard one however you need to lighten up. People know if you’re too intense and will not ask you for a date if they can tell you have a higher agenda. Those with a sense of ease get the dates…always www.social8.com.au


Slide 12:Be positive, not negative Do you love life or are you always complaining? Victim mode, as in ‘poor me’ is boring and very unattractive. Learn to be happy, it is only a mindset and you choose your thoughts so choose positive and not negative ones. Positive people get the dates while negative people wonder why they didn’t get the date. www.social8.com.au


Slide 13:Be what you desire Want someone with a good sense of humour? Then have one yourself What about being financially secure, then mirror that too. Or someone who is kind and honest? Someone fit and active? Or someone who is a good conversationalist? Make sure you mirror that which you are wanting and desiring. www.social8.com.au


Slide 14:Don’t talk about… Your ex….one word…BORING. Yes always, even your very unusual hard done by story. How much child alimony you pay And divorce settlements or even worse battles. Trust me…they do not want to know nor care. Refer back to positivity…drop victim mode www.social8.com.au


Slide 15:Remove your fear of rejection Please understand this is a fear EVERYONE has… I promise. Everyone remembers being 7 or 17 and rejected and no-one wishes to return to this state. When some says no to you, understand this judgment has been made purely based on their past experience with others and not on the experience of knowing you. They probably have yet to really know you and are making assumptions. So don’t take it personally. www.social8.com.au


Slide 16:Don’t let fear stop you Never let fear stop you from going for what it is you want. If you let fear stop you, well to quote Dr Phil. ‘How is that working for you?’ Don’t bother telling me, I know the answer. It’s not! Please, work hard to face your fears. Fear is purely False Emotion Appearing Real. Pure fantasy….remember, it hasn’t happened yet! www.social8.com.au


Slide 17:Match making doesn’t work Passing judgment on you and someone else does not result in chemistry between two people. Nor does computer generated box ticking and internet matching. Say yes to random invitations and let the universe do it’s thing. Fate, random, chance, karma….call it what you want, get out amongst it and give it a chance to occur. www.social8.com.au


Slide 18:Dates are not a job interview I understand many people want a life partner however this can scare off many potential life partners who initially simply want to meet someone nice and date for the moment. Relax and go with the moment. Have fun and enjoy being single with interesting single people. And who knows, one of these nice single may become in time the one. www.social8.com.au


Slide 19:Don’t let the past stop you So you’ve been hurt before and don’t want to repeat that episode and experience the pain again? Please don’t let the past stop you from grabbing life and experiencing more that it has to offer. And please don’t be someone who becomes so happy with their own company, they don’t desire companionship. Life is for living! www.social8.com.au


Slide 20:Transform yourself Yes change is good, if you are being authentic. Look within and grow. Be the person you want to be and attract that which you should into your life. Continue to re-invent yourself until you have someone you really love. Love the good, bad and ugly within. Yes love yourself first before you can love someone else. www.social8.com.au


Slide 21:Don’t get deja vu Déjà vu is great if you are getting what you want however if you are having the same type of relationships that are not working then it is definitely time for change Do something different to ensure you get a different result. Different could be the change you need to get your social life sparking. www.social8.com.au


Slide 22:Learn to give & take compliments To receive a compliment with a simply smile and thank you is wonderful. If you cant take a compliment, please work on loving yourself more until you feel worthy of this compliment It takes a big person to accept nice things being said about them, and is sad when someone gives their power away when denying something nice about themselves.


Slide 23:Don’t give up You are not too old, too young, too educated, too unsophisticated, too shy, too loud or too …..…fill in the blank to meet someone or make new friends. It isn’t over till you say it is. So don’t give up, get back out amongst it all. It’s all waiting for you any time you decide your ready. www.social8.com.au


Slide 24:Believe in you Stay positive in your search. Many people will tell you there are no nice men/women out there. Rubbish. There are plenty. I know, I meet them! Use the law of attraction to ensure you believe in your dream. Don’t let someone else’s negative picture stop your desire for companionship. Life is for living! www.social8.com.au


Slide 25:You don’t need to be perfect People who are balding or unattractive or in their 40’s, 50’s or even 80’s and people who wear knee high stockings fall in love every day. You can too! So don’t let negative judgment of yourself stop you from believing you are worthy. www.social8.com.au


Slide 26:Learn to listen Most people who initiate a relationship breakup, say the main reason was they felt they were not being listened to. Please master the art of listening…and you just may learn a lot more in life too ? www.social8.com.au


Slide 27:Live your dream Don’t settle for second best. If you are doing this then please look within yourself to see what it is you are not giving yourself. Your life should be full of exciting energy. Go for it and get exactly that which you are. Keep your standards. www.social8.com.au


Slide 28:Show up to receive Get out amongst it all to make it happen for you. You need to show up and not sit at home alone. You need to be friendly, talk to people, say yes to invitations and remember don’t take it personally when things don’t go as you had hoped. www.social8.com.au


Slide 29:If you have always done what you always do, you will always get what you always got. Make a change…today www.social8.com.au


Slide 30:Copyright 2009 Jane Donovan for www.social8.com.au