Self-Esteem and Social Skills

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Self-Esteem and Social Skills: What We Can All Do to Help : 

Self-Esteem and Social Skills: What We Can All Do to Help Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-Esteem : 

Self-Esteem Which of these statements could be a sign your child has low self-esteem? A. “I just don’t get math.” B. “I’m stupid.” C. “I don’t understand this question.” D. “I don’t care about this stuff.” E. All of the above except C. F. All of the above. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem : 

Self-esteem E. Choices A and B are signs of “learned helplessness.” Basically, a child gives up before ever trying. D is a different way of saying, “I just can’t do it, so why even bother?” Choice C is what we WANT. This statement means, “I can do the work—I am just stumped on this one question.” Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem : 

Self-esteem Which of these statements should parents say to their kids with homework? A. “I know you struggle in reading. I always did too when I was your age.” B. “Maybe you weren’t listening in class.” C. “Looks like you may need to spend some more time on this.” D. “This isn’t hard at all!” Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem : 

Self-esteem C. This statement should be followed with extra practice with parent and child so that the child feels successful. A gives the child a way out. The child hears, “Well, my mom/dad couldn’t do it, so why should I even try?” B puts the child on the defensive, and they hear, “I must be doing something wrong!” D is frustrating, and they hear, “Come on, kid. You must be stupid if you can’t get this!” Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem : 

Self-esteem Which of these strategies can help a child with difficulties (chores, schoolwork, or attitude)? A. Say, “I need your help in fixing this.” B. Sit down with your child and get their input on consequences for not doing their duties. C. Say, “I have made a mistake, because I thought this would help you.” D. All of the above. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem : 

Self-esteem D. A and B put the responsibility of following a plan on the child’s shoulders, not yours. The plan with consequences becomes something that the child creates, rather than something that is “done unto” them. C lets your child know you make mistakes. No person is perfect—and if you don’t let your child know you make mistakes, they will feel like they should never make one either! Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem : 

Self-esteem Which of these is NOT the way to handle self-esteem issues? A. “It’s not your fault. Don’t be upset!” B. “Okay, so what can we do next time to make sure things go better?” C. “I’m proud of you for trying.” D. “I know your feelings may be hurt, but teasing can’t hurt you unless you let it.” Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem : 

Self-esteem A. This gives the message that if you blame someone else, it’s never your fault. (A BIG problem in society today!) B not only redirects the emotions, but gives your child tools to brainstorm and problem solve, so the next time, the result MAY be positive. With practice, this is a life-long skill. C lets the child know you will support them. Nothing is more important to a child’s self-esteem than their perception of their parent’s feelings toward them. D is the old “sticks and stones” mentality. Even if the teasing is mean and requires other action on your part, giving your child tools to “brush it off” helps them be stronger. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem recap : 

Self-esteem recap To build self-esteem: Don’t blame anyone else. Be positive about yourself, but strong enough to admit your own mistakes. You should be human, not super-human. Redirect your child’s statements: Instead of “I stink at math,” it should be “I need extra practice at math to be good at it.” Find something your child is good at and give them experiences with it. It helps to find something academic vs. athletic, otherwise you get the “I stink at school, but I am awesome at sports” kid! Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem recap : 

Self-esteem recap If you see a real problem, address it with your child’s doctor. Denying a medical issue like ADHD or a language disorder is worse than a diagnosis. Create solutions, not excuses. Teach them how to problem solve. ”Feed a man a fish…” Find strength in weaknesses. For example, ADHD does make it harder for me to focus, but I can do three things at once, and can get by on less sleep than others! Just like in life, we complain when things are bad, but never compliment when things go well (Have you called your cell phone company to thank them for all your calls going through?). Be sure to point out the good in your child. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Self-esteem recap : 

Self-esteem recap Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements. “I would love it if you could help me find a way to keep you organized” versus “Your room is a mess. Why can’t you keep it clean?” Discipline should be firm, fair, and friendly. Yelling and screaming scares, and is not preventative! Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills : 

Social skills Which of these statements would NOT help your child become more socially competent? A. “If the kid is being mean, don’t play with them.” B. “How did it make you feel when the other child took your toy?” C. “What else could you have said when the child told you he didn’t want to play with you?” D. “Tell me what you should have done. How is that different than what you did?” Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills : 

Social skills A. Giving up on another child with one try will never force your child to use other strategies to try and make friends. Choice B helps children vocalize their feelings. This will help them keep emotions in check, and rebound more easily. C and D force students to problem solve either alternative strategies, or better ways to handle negative behaviors in themselves—the keys to successful social skills. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills : 

Social skills If your child is having social skills issues, which of these is NOT helpful in improving them? A. Have a chart where the child gets a sticker (younger) or a check (older kids) if they demonstrate the behavior. B. Giving opportunities to play with family or close friends which increase chances of success, and observing from a distance. C. Reviewing skills in great detail daily, then weekly on improvements made or not made. D. Praise your child as soon as you see him/her perform the correct behavior, regardless of where you are. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills : 

Social skills D. This could be very embarrassing for children, both young and old, and may revert to even worse behaviors to insure the embarrassment doesn’t occur again. B gives easier opportunities for success—and a better chance for you to see firsthand what your child is/is not doing. A and C are two steps in developing a plan of action to correct behaviors, be they shyness, aggression towards others, bossiness, or any behavior that is seen as negative. This plan can be used for kids from 2-12. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills : 

Social skills Which of these is NOT a possible solution to problems with social interaction? A. Medication B. Throwing a party for peers at your house or other area C. Inviting a small group to your house with a well-planned activity, like building a birdhouse or a log cabin from popsicle sticks D. Working with your child’s teacher, and have her e-mail any instances of the negative behavior to you when possible Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills : 

Social skills B, believe it or not. A party will insure the children are nice to your child that day (after all, you’re stuffing them with food), but the next day, all returns to normal. QUICK caution with A: NO child should be on medication without a medical diagnosis, and even some with a diagnosis do not need medication. With some, it is a good option. C will help your child model the correct behavior, and gives you the chance to correct it immediately. D is very helpful, as it will give you the chance to review and discuss alternatives with your child. (And any teacher will be thrilled you want to fix it!) Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills recap : 

Social skills recap Play with your child, and show the skills you want them to have. Give successful opportunities and coach them before play begins. Problem solve a disastrous experience, and help your child see what can be done differently in the future. When you see your child exhibit a good behavior, be sure to retell the situation, and compliment heavily. Let children work out their own problems socially when possible. Getting involved will stop your child from learning how to deal with the situation on their own. Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills recap : 

Social skills recap If your child needs a plan of action, start by giving a sticker or check on a chart for showing it once. Then move to showing it daily, weekly, and finally, monthly. Monitor whenever possible. Your child’s teacher will help in almost any case. Videotaping a social interaction is helpful. Go over several positives before discussing the inappropriate behavior and how to fix it. Let your child know they cannot be friends with everyone, and not everyone will always like them. That’s okay! Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

Social skills recap : 

Social skills recap Sometimes, kids perceive a lack of friends or problems when there aren’t any. Talk in depth about their problem, and try to see why they think that way. Most of the time, a child who “has no friends” may have two children in the whole class that are not friends with your child. Perception is reality! Work with children in how to deal with negative situations. Role playing is very helpful. You can play the role of the child that is bothering your child, or in the case of a shy or bossy child, play your child, and have your child see what their behaviors do to others. Make sure you talk about the role playing afterwards! Imprint Training Center 9- Lal Niwas, Sardarpura, Udaipur- 313001 Email: imprintspdp@gmail.com

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