Confident Conversation

Confident Conversations : 

Confident Conversations Presented By: Joe F Ben H Donna K Wendy S

Preparation : 

Preparation Seek out and learn from good conversationalists.

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Before attending a function or party do a little research. Not quite…but sort of.

Slide 5: 

Keep current with news events and culture.

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Set some personal goals.

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Aim to BE, not just to seem.

Initiating a Conversation : 

Initiating a Conversation Taking the leap!

Being a good conversationalist : 

Being a good conversationalist

Relax : 

Deep Breath. Exhale. Relax. Relax

Exude Positivity : 

Exude Positivity

Put them at ease : 

Put them at ease Everyone has butterflies. Do your best to calm ‘em down!

Take it easy… : 

Take it easy…

Remember what your Mother said! : 

Remember what your Mother said!

Maintaining Conversation : 

Maintaining Conversation Using Assertiveness to keep dialogue flowing!

Assertiveness: Verbal and Non-verbal : 

Assertiveness: Verbal and Non-verbal Assertive characteristics are common among conversationalists, in both verbal and non-verbal communication. Having the ability to step up and out into the unknown relays a confidence that others will notice.

Good Body Language : 

Good Body Language As much as ninety three percent of our daily interactions are of the unspoken variety. Needless to say, body language is an important part of confident, assertive communication. Non-verbal comm. is important in many settings. It was recently reported that NFL QB Mark Sanchez is fined for occasional poor body language.

The “Do’s and Don’ts” : 

The “Do’s and Don’ts” Good Stand at a respectful distance with your body angled towards your subject. Make eye contact—don’t glance around. Keep a level head, literally. Of course, shake hands with a firm grip. Poor Standing too close or too far away and turning away from someone. Looking at the ground or eye-rolling. Leaning back and away. Limp handshake indicates disinterest.

Talking the Talk : 

Talking the Talk All the positive body language in the world isn’t going to help if you can’t maintain that assertive attitude once you open your mouth. Fumble mouth isn’t the best way to win your date over! Looking and sounding confident goes a long way in these situations.

The “Do’s and Don’ts…Part II” : 

The “Do’s and Don’ts…Part II” Engaging and Interesting Think before you speak. Believe in what you’re saying. Don’t over speak—be calm, clear, and concise. If you have something to say…SAY IT! Others can’t read your mind. Express your true feelings, albeit in a mindful and respectful manner. “I “ Statements. Awkward and yawn-inducing Stopping mid-sentence. Being wishy-washy, beating around the bush, and taking too long to say it. Hesitating to speak up. Asking close ended questions (yes or no?).

Concluding the Conversation : 

Concluding the Conversation Putting a bow on a successful interaction.

Wrap it up the right way : 

Wrap it up the right way Sooner or later every conversation must come to an end.

How do you know when it's time to end a conversation? : 

How do you know when it's time to end a conversation?

Look for the subtle hints: : 

Look for the subtle hints: Non verbal signs

Sometimes, not so subtle: : 

Sometimes, not so subtle: Non verbal signs Verbal signs

If you ignore their hints, they may become more desperate to get away. : 

If you ignore their hints, they may become more desperate to get away.

Remember, watch for the signs… : 

Remember, watch for the signs…

Final word of advice: : 

Final word of advice: Be like George Bush: don’t think—just talk! “We’re Students for a Better Conversation, and we approve this message”

Sources : 

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