logging in or signing up How do Trauma and Shame Connect grammadoc Download Post to : URL : Related Presentations : Share Add to Flag Embed Email Send to Blogs and Networks Add to Channel Uploaded from authorPOINT lite Insert YouTube videos in PowerPont slides with aS Desktop Copy embed code: (To copy code, click on the text box) Embed: URL: Thumbnail: WordPress Embed Customize Embed The presentation is successfully added In Your Favorites. Views: 226 Category: Education License: All Rights Reserved Like it (0) Dislike it (0) Added: December 18, 2009 This Presentation is Public Favorites: 0 Presentation Description No description available. Comments Posting comment... Premium member Presentation Transcript Trauma and Shame : Trauma and Shame Pamela J. Merten MS, LPC Living Your Design Life Coaching & Counseling 414-430-3122 Slide 2: Trauma is painful. The traumatic event is more painful because of : The traumatic event is more painful because of SHAME Were you an infant? : Were you an infant? Were you in grade school? : Were you in grade school? Were you a teenager? : Were you a teenager? Were you a young adult? : Were you a young adult? Were you an adult? : Were you an adult? Who did it? : Who did it? Your mom? Your dad? A grandparent? Your teacher? Your pastor? Your peer? Slide 11: HOW LONG HAVE YOU LIVED WITH SHAME Slide 12: The younger we were when it happened, the more we have internalized SHAME Reminder: Shame & Guilt . . . : Reminder: Shame & Guilt . . . Guilt : Guilt If I DO something wrong, I am guilty. Guilt does not attack my identity! It addresses my behavior. SHAME : SHAME We feel shame for who we are. A person feels shame because he believes he IS something wrong. Shame attacks our identity – our sense of self. Slide 16: GUILT “I lied. I am guilty for doing that.” SHAME “I AM a liar. I am worthless because I lied.” BACK TO : BACK TO SHAME Slide 18: You're not being a good Christian. Why can't you be a good boy? When are you ever going to grow up? The silent treatment We internalize SHAME I don't know why I ever wanted you! We internalize, we “eat” shame! : We internalize, we “eat” shame! That’s because when we were younger, we did not know how to protect ourselves from it. . . Slide 20: Hey, Dad! Just because you’re havin’ a bad day, don’t take it out on me! Slide 21: “Shame is like everything else; live with it long enough and it becomes part of the furniture.” (Salman Rushdie) We bring those negative beliefs into adulthood! : We bring those negative beliefs into adulthood! I am defective. I am impure, filthy, a mistake, flawed. I am unwanted, unloved. I am impotent, feeble. I am bad, despicable. I am nothing, worthless, invisible, empty. The arrows ofshame continue toto spear us. . . : The arrows ofshame continue toto spear us. . . Slide 24: Shame produces . . . : depression anxiety fear embarrassment physical illness jealousy excessive anger excessive sadness self-rejection What does all of this have to do with . . . : What does all of this have to do with . . . TRAUMA An traumatic event may trigger : An traumatic event may trigger SHAME Trauma and Shame . . . : Trauma and Shame . . . If I had been stronger, he wouldn’t have done that to me: I am worthless. I shouldn’t have trusted her; I am stupid. If I had been there on time, he wouldn’t have died; I am a failure. What helps? : What helps? Share your thoughts & feelings with someone who is trustworthy and empathic. Bring God into the situation as your advocate. Grieve losses caused by the traumatic event. EMDR – helps alleviate negative self-beliefs. Find a therapist who is trained in using this tool. A traumatic experience is painful. : A traumatic experience is painful. Shame adds to that pain. Seek help! “Nothing is impossible with God. (Luke 1:37)” You do not have the permission to view this presentation. In order to view it, please contact the author of the presentation.
How do Trauma and Shame Connect grammadoc Download Post to : URL : Related Presentations : Share Add to Flag Embed Email Send to Blogs and Networks Add to Channel Uploaded from authorPOINT lite Insert YouTube videos in PowerPont slides with aS Desktop Copy embed code: (To copy code, click on the text box) Embed: URL: Thumbnail: WordPress Embed Customize Embed The presentation is successfully added In Your Favorites. Views: 226 Category: Education License: All Rights Reserved Like it (0) Dislike it (0) Added: December 18, 2009 This Presentation is Public Favorites: 0 Presentation Description No description available. Comments Posting comment... Premium member Presentation Transcript Trauma and Shame : Trauma and Shame Pamela J. Merten MS, LPC Living Your Design Life Coaching & Counseling 414-430-3122 Slide 2: Trauma is painful. The traumatic event is more painful because of : The traumatic event is more painful because of SHAME Were you an infant? : Were you an infant? Were you in grade school? : Were you in grade school? Were you a teenager? : Were you a teenager? Were you a young adult? : Were you a young adult? Were you an adult? : Were you an adult? Who did it? : Who did it? Your mom? Your dad? A grandparent? Your teacher? Your pastor? Your peer? Slide 11: HOW LONG HAVE YOU LIVED WITH SHAME Slide 12: The younger we were when it happened, the more we have internalized SHAME Reminder: Shame & Guilt . . . : Reminder: Shame & Guilt . . . Guilt : Guilt If I DO something wrong, I am guilty. Guilt does not attack my identity! It addresses my behavior. SHAME : SHAME We feel shame for who we are. A person feels shame because he believes he IS something wrong. Shame attacks our identity – our sense of self. Slide 16: GUILT “I lied. I am guilty for doing that.” SHAME “I AM a liar. I am worthless because I lied.” BACK TO : BACK TO SHAME Slide 18: You're not being a good Christian. Why can't you be a good boy? When are you ever going to grow up? The silent treatment We internalize SHAME I don't know why I ever wanted you! We internalize, we “eat” shame! : We internalize, we “eat” shame! That’s because when we were younger, we did not know how to protect ourselves from it. . . Slide 20: Hey, Dad! Just because you’re havin’ a bad day, don’t take it out on me! Slide 21: “Shame is like everything else; live with it long enough and it becomes part of the furniture.” (Salman Rushdie) We bring those negative beliefs into adulthood! : We bring those negative beliefs into adulthood! I am defective. I am impure, filthy, a mistake, flawed. I am unwanted, unloved. I am impotent, feeble. I am bad, despicable. I am nothing, worthless, invisible, empty. The arrows ofshame continue toto spear us. . . : The arrows ofshame continue toto spear us. . . Slide 24: Shame produces . . . : depression anxiety fear embarrassment physical illness jealousy excessive anger excessive sadness self-rejection What does all of this have to do with . . . : What does all of this have to do with . . . TRAUMA An traumatic event may trigger : An traumatic event may trigger SHAME Trauma and Shame . . . : Trauma and Shame . . . If I had been stronger, he wouldn’t have done that to me: I am worthless. I shouldn’t have trusted her; I am stupid. If I had been there on time, he wouldn’t have died; I am a failure. What helps? : What helps? Share your thoughts & feelings with someone who is trustworthy and empathic. Bring God into the situation as your advocate. Grieve losses caused by the traumatic event. EMDR – helps alleviate negative self-beliefs. Find a therapist who is trained in using this tool. A traumatic experience is painful. : A traumatic experience is painful. Shame adds to that pain. Seek help! “Nothing is impossible with God. (Luke 1:37)”