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Introduction to the Enneagram(any-a-gram) : 

Introduction to the Enneagram(any-a-gram) Diane Pisanos RN, MS, NNP-BC, AHN-BC Life, Health & Leadership Coach & Consultant Emotional Intelligence Certified Enneagram Facilitator

The Enneagram : 

The Enneagram Nine distinct personality types Nine different perspectives on life Nine ways of being in the world

Outline for today: The Enneagram System : 

Outline for today: The Enneagram System Why the Enneagram? Emotional Intelligence 3 Center’s of Intelligence Other groupings Your Ennea-type (number) Wings Triangle (stress & neglected arrows) Subtypes The Golden Triangle Work application & follow up References & Resources Typing Your Enneagram*

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Awareness to Action: The Enneagram, Emotional Intelligence & Change, Tallon & Sikora

Why Emotional Intelligence Matters : 

Why Emotional Intelligence Matters Emotional Intelligence is the greatest predictor of success (outdistancing IQ and job experience) in every occupation, every industry and every organizational level. People with Emotional Intelligence are happier because they have: Realistic self-assessment Greater self-acceptance Larger support and friendship networks Employees with Emotional Intelligence produce more effective organizations Employees Experience less stress Work better with co-workers, customers and bosses Perform better on teams Take more responsibility for their behavior and work product Are more willing to learn and grow Leaders Manage their job stress more effectively Make better decisions Work more productively with people at all levels in the organization Handle their authority constructively Design more productive organizations © 2005 Bogda & Associates

Johari’s Window : 

Johari’s Window

The Big Picture:Outcomes of STRESS : 

The Big Picture:Outcomes of STRESS STRESS Mindfully thriving-engaged Adequate coping (surviving) Burnout-leave job Horizontal disease (acute) Vertical disease (chronic) Compassion fatigue syndrome (retired, still at work)

Personalitythe natural tendency to go on automatic pilot & prefer “proven”, automatic behaviors : 

Personalitythe natural tendency to go on automatic pilot & prefer “proven”, automatic behaviors Habit (go to sleep, automatic pilot) Aliveness Anxiety Courage: “right action” The realization that we’re not sure how to act (doubt) Categorizing (ego) Authenticity Creating an image of what “is me” & what “is not me”

So why are we learning all of this? : 

So why are we learning all of this? ? awareness & self-management = more choices for you = new outcomes Managing stress effectively = healthier you Engaged spirit = happier you Knowing your personality & habits and not being run by them = more freedom The Enneagram can serve as a tool/map in helping us move from resistance to responsiveness Appreciate false self from essence Effective relationships & Improved performance (being) (doing)

Background : 

Background The star-shaped Enneagram (Greek for “nine and “drawing”) groups human emotions and behavior, negative and positive-into nine personality types. The real origin is of mystery. Nature Vs. Nuture?

History of the Enneagram : 

History of the Enneagram © 2005 Bogda & Associates The FBI Movies International Relations Leadership Criminology Health: the mind-body connection

How We Learn : 

How We Learn Different authors, semantics, styles, & focus Panels; the “Oral Traditional” Unhealthy to healthy Movies, actors and famous people *Our Focus-The Business: Leadership EnneagramAwareness to Action: Tallon & Sikora* Bringing Out the Best in Yourself at Work: How to Use the Enneagram System for Success, What Type of Leader are You?: Ginger Lapid-Bogda-Department will receive packets.

The Enneagram: the foundation : 

The Enneagram: the foundation Emotional Intelligence through the Enneagram Definition Origin It’s varied application Principles

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You have a blank diagram to write on!

Enneagram Style Descriptive Labels : 

Enneagram Style Descriptive Labels © 2005 Bogda & Associates

The Centers of Intelligence : 

The Centers of Intelligence Head (Mental) Center Use: Planning, Insight, Analysis Misuse: Over-analysis, Analysis-paralysis, Projection Underlying Concern: Fear (Enneagram Styles 5, 6, and 7) Body (Instinctual) Center Use: Movement, Action, Gut-knowing Misuse: Over-action, Under-action, Excessiveness Underlying Concern: Anger, Control (Enneagram Styles 8, 9, and 1) Heart (Emotional) Center Use: Relationships, Compassion, Affection Misuse: Oversensitivity, Hard-heartedness, Emotional Manipulation Underlying Concern: Image, Sorrow (Enneagram Styles 2, 3, and 4) Head Heart Body © 2005 Bogda & Associates

The 3 Centers of Intelligence : 

The 3 Centers of Intelligence The body/instinctual: control Anger Energetic habits of instinct or life force The head/thinking: security Fear Habitual way of sorting information The heart/feelings: image Shame /worthiness Passion of the heart-a reoccurring emotional habit The goal is for all of us to utilize every center of intelligence fully : Dyad exercise 8, 9, 1 5, 6, 7

The Centers of Intelligence : 

The Centers of Intelligence Head (Mental) Center Use: Planning, Insight, Analysis Misuse: Over-analysis, Analysis-paralysis, Projection Underlying Concern: Fear (Enneagram Styles 5, 6, and 7) Body (Instinctual) Center Use: Movement, Action, Gut-knowing Misuse: Over-action, Under-action, Excessiveness Underlying Concern: Anger, Control (Enneagram Styles 8, 9, and 1) Heart (Emotional) Center Use: Relationships, Compassion, Affection Misuse: Oversensitivity, Hard-heartedness, Emotional Manipulation Underlying Concern: Image, Sorrow (Enneagram Styles 2, 3, and 4) Head Heart Body © 2005 Bogda & Associates Choose your #1 Center for now, Discuss with the person next to you

Other Groupings of the Enneagram : 

Other Groupings of the Enneagram Efficient/competent: 1,3,5 Positive outlook/cooperative: 7, 9, 2 Reactionary: 6, 8, 4 Assertive: 8, 3, 7 Withdrawn: 9, 4, 5 Compliant/dependent: 1, 2, 6 Different groupings assist in typing and understanding the Enneagram: Dyad exercise

Enneagram Style Descriptive Labels : 

Enneagram Style Descriptive Labels © 2005 Bogda & Associates While the ennea-type (number) is dynamic, one’s number never changes **handout on virtue & vice, ideal states & role to achieve in a lifetime

Type 1the reformer, the teacher, the activist, the crusader, the moralist, the perfectionist, the organizer : 

Type 1the reformer, the teacher, the activist, the crusader, the moralist, the perfectionist, the organizer Chief asset: precision What they like in others: competence, high quality, adherence to principles & procedures What they dislike in others: emotionality, illogical behavior, rule breaking How they frustrate others: perfectionism, pessimism, rigidity, judging Approach to problem solving: ”We need to be logical about this & do the correct thing” How other’ see ones: rational, proper, conscientious, disciplined & discerning but sometimes rigid, critical, condescending, humorless, & remote Ones get into trouble when they tell themselves: “I know how things should be. I can change myself & my environment to fit my ideals” Where they shine: setting & following procedures. Ones are great in roles that require consistency of method & log Famous people

#1: The Reformer : 

#1: The Reformer Can lead through integrity & reason OR be hindered by perfectionism & resentment

Type 2the altruist, the lover, the caretaker, the pleaser, the enabler, the special friend : 

Type 2the altruist, the lover, the caretaker, the pleaser, the enabler, the special friend Chief asset: empathy What they like in others: friendliness, sharing of feelings, display of emotion What they dislike in others: coldness, unavailability, lack of needs How they frustrate others: flattery, emotionality, intrusiveness Approach to problem solving: “I’m fine, is there anything I can do to help?” How others see twos: helpful, concerned, expressive, dependable, & engaging but sometimes intrusive, angry, flattering, prideful, and manipulative Twos get themselves in trouble when they tell themselves: “Some people are more important than others and deserve a larger share of my attention” Where they shine: when they can help others thrive. Two’s love to play a supportive role & often see themselves as the power behind the throne who helps others be successful. Famous people

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#2: The Helper Can shine with generosity & healing power OR struggle with people-pleasing & possessiveness

Type 3the achiever, the motivator, the role model, the paragon, the communicator, the status seeker, the best : 

Type 3the achiever, the motivator, the role model, the paragon, the communicator, the status seeker, the best Chief asset: achievement What they like in others: prestige, success, efficiency What they dislike in others: failure, emotions, indifference to their achievements How they frustrate others: self-centeredness, overselling themselves, cutting corners Approach to problem solving: “Let’s just concentrate getting this done” How others see threes: ambitious, successful, goal-oriented, focused, competitive, but sometimes egotistical, political, shallow, deceptive, and attention-seeking Threes get into trouble when they tell themselves: “My value is based on my actions & accomplishments & the way I am perceived by others Where they shine: in the spotlight: they love to be noticed for their accomplishments & generally take opportunities to have their achievements noticed by others Famous people

#3: The Achiever : 

#3: The Achiever Can become an inspiring example of excellence & authenticity OR blindly pursue success & status

Type 4the individualist, the artist, the romantic, the melancholic, the aesthete, the tragic victim, the special one : 

Type 4the individualist, the artist, the romantic, the melancholic, the aesthete, the tragic victim, the special one Chief asset: originality What they like in others: refinement, sensitivity, creativity What they dislike in others: coarseness, conformity, superficiality How they frustrate others: moodiness, withdrawing, self-absorption Approach to problem solving: “I’m going to do this in a way that no one has ever done it before” How others see fours: empathetic, creative, unique, & refined, but sometimes moody, dramatic, self-absorbed, a& melancholic Fours get into trouble when they tell themselves: “I’ll never get what I truly want, but I must not stop hoping that someone or something will rescue me. Where they shine: In creative environments. Fours love opportunities to express their originality & creativity, so they do well in situations where that can add their own flare to projects. Famous people

#4: The Individualist : 

#4: The Individualist Can model creativity & intuitive power OR be held back by moodiness & self-consciousness

Type 5the investigator, the thinker, the innovator, the observer, the specialist, the radical, the expert : 

Type 5the investigator, the thinker, the innovator, the observer, the specialist, the radical, the expert Chief asset: insight What they like in others: intelligence, innovation, curiosity What they dislike in others: emotional reactions, high pressure, crowds Approach to problem solving: “Let’s make sure we have all the facts” How they frustrate others: lack of action, intellectual arrogance, withholding of emotions How others see fives: strategic, visionary, perceptive, analytical but sometimes withdrawn, unresponsive, distant, lacking emotions Fives get into trouble when they tell themselves: “”I’ll be safe if no one knows what I truly think or feel. Where they shine: at figuring things out. Fives are great in an environment where they have the opportunity to analyze, research, innovate, & solve complex problems Famous people

#5: The Investigator : 

#5: The Investigator Can demonstrate visionary intellect & inventiveness OR become increasingly eccentric & isolated

Type 6the loyalist, the guardian, the true believer, the doubter, the troubleshooter, the traditionalist, the stalwart : 

Type 6the loyalist, the guardian, the true believer, the doubter, the troubleshooter, the traditionalist, the stalwart Chief asset: support What they like in others: dependability, support/protectiveness, hard work What they dislike in others: ambiguity, undependability, deviance (from the norms) How they frustrate others: complaining, indecision, lack of trust Approach to problem solving: “I need to find out what else can go wrong and who I can depend on” How others see sixes: engaging, upbeat, team oriented, caring, but sometimes anxious, suspicious, combative, and fearful Where they shine: Anticipating problems. Sixes are great in situations where they have the opportunity to play Devil’s Advocate & prepare the team for potential difficulties Famous people

#6 The Loyalist : 

#6 The Loyalist Can exemplify courage & commitment OR struggle with anxiety & rebelliousness

Type 7the enthusiast, the generalist, the multi-tasker, the wunderkind, the dilettante, the connoisseur, the energizer : 

Type 7the enthusiast, the generalist, the multi-tasker, the wunderkind, the dilettante, the connoisseur, the energizer Chief asset: enthusiasm What they like in others: optimism, lightheartedness, spontaneity What they dislike in others: pessimism, stuffiness, rigidity How they frustrate others: hyperactivity, inappropriateness, lack of commitment Approach to problem solving: “Let’s look at the bright side” How other’s see sevens: joyful, upbeat, exciting & energetic, but sometimes irresponsible, distracted, inattentive & self-centered. Sevens get into trouble when they tell themselves: “Everything will be fine when _____(fill in the blank) happens Where they shine: At energizing people. Sevens are great in situations where they have the opportunity to galvanize enthusiasm & energy around a concept, product, cause etc…. Famous People

#7 The Enthusiast : 

#7 The Enthusiast Can become highly accomplished & spirited OR be waylaid by impulsiveness & impatience

Type 8the challenger, the boss, the leader, the protector, the provider, the entrepreneur, the maverick, the rock : 

Type 8the challenger, the boss, the leader, the protector, the provider, the entrepreneur, the maverick, the rock Chief Asset: Passion What they like in others: confidence, lack of pretense, straightforwardness What they dislike in others: timidity, bullying, rigidity How they frustrate others: arrogance, hostility, stubbornness Approach to problem solving: “It’s time for me to take charge” How others see eights: honest, outgoing, fun-loving, & strong-willed, but sometimes blunt, excessive, reckless, & arrogant Eights get into trouble when they tell themselves: “The world is a threatening place that will not cut me a break. I must take from life anything good that I can get. Where they shine: When the going gets tough. Eights bring tremendous self-confidence & energy to their work, and they thrive in the heat of battle. They love to challenge to overcome. Famous people

#8 The Challenger : 

#8 The Challenger Can be a powerful, magnanimous leader OR control & intimidate others

Type 9the peacemaker, the healer, the optimist, the reconciler, the comforter, the utopian, nobody special : 

Type 9the peacemaker, the healer, the optimist, the reconciler, the comforter, the utopian, nobody special Chief asset: groundedness What they like in others: positivity, humility, consistency What they dislike in others: confrontation, arrogance, turbulence How they frustrate others: passive-aggressive, withdrawing, indecision Approach to problem solving: let’s get together an and hear what everyone has to say How others see nines: pleasant, likable, level-headed, & easy going but sometimes unfocused, stubborn, & forgetful Nines get into trouble when they tell themselves: “Other people’s needs are more important than my own and I should just go with the flow” Where they shine: making people feel good about themselves, feeling included & part of the team. Famous People

#9: The Peacemaker : 

#9: The Peacemaker Can bring people together & heal conflicts OR be held back by passivity & stubbornness

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The 9 Strategies Striving to be peaceful/comfortable Striving to be perfect Striving to be connected Striving to be outstanding Striving to be unique Striving to be detached Striving to be secure Striving to be excited Striving to be powerful From Action to Awareness: Sikora & Tallon

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You cannot change something about yourself until you are able to see and accept it.

Enneagram Leadership Paradigms : 

Enneagram Leadership Paradigms © 2005 Bogda & Associates

Leadership Gifts : 

Making important things happen The pursuit of excellence Motivation and service to others Obtaining results The pursuit of one’s passion The importance of objectivity Insight and planning Innovation and flexibility Inclusion and consensus Leadership Gifts © 2005 Bogda & Associates

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Paradoxes How our styles of behavior tend to get us the opposite of what we truly want 8 I want acceptance for myself, including my vulnerabilities, but I act so strong, independent and in-charge that people rarely perceive me as needing their support. 1 I want to be valued and accepted unconditionally but I am so self-critical, I don’t believe anyone could truly value me, and I act so critical of others that I often push them away. 2 I want my own needs for appreciation, support, etc. to be addressed but I spend my energy focusing on and meeting the needs of others and frequently don’t even know what my own needs are. 3 I really want to be valued for who I am, not what I do, but I spend my energy on “doing” and achieving results, thus creating only an image for people to relate to. 4 I seek lasting connection with people but spend my energy keeping myself marginal or apart and engage in intense push/pull behavior, which people find troublesome and off-putting. 5 I want to be in real connection with others and to fully experience life but my fear causes me to emotionally withdraw and to move into my intellect. 6 I really want to trust myself and others but my suspicions are so great that I project my concerns, I move forward and pull back from others and end up causing other people to distrust me. 7 I want to feel complete and really OK about myself but I avoid difficult situations and constantly create multiple options, both of which make it hard for me to feel settled, fully satisfied or completely self-accepting. 9 I want to be acknowledged and taken seriously, but because I am so easy going and generally go along with what others want, I end up feeling like I don’t really matter. © 2005 Bogda & Associates

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Choose your top 2 numbers (ennea-types) at this point: ideally #1, & #2. Discuss with the person why you have chosen these 2 numbers.

Different patterns, connections : 

Different patterns, connections Strategies-actual number Wings Triangles Energy Level of maturity Subtypes Family influence Cultural Influence Different patterns and connections within the Enneagram is what makes us unique

Typing Your EnneagramNumber: Verify with the correct triangle & wing (s)dyad exercise : 

Typing Your EnneagramNumber: Verify with the correct triangle & wing (s)dyad exercise Call for clarifications/confusion & questions! The 3 Centers of Intelligence Other groupings The Triangle The Wings *David Daniels-The Essential Enneagram

The Subtypes : 

The Subtypes Self-preserving: preserving Social: navigating One to one: transmitting These subtypes in and of themselves are invaluable. There are 3 subtypes for each number which=27.

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The Subtypes

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Most of this material was taken from Terry Saracino: TASaracino@aol.com, www.EnneagramWorldwide.com and Mario Sikora-Mariosikora.com

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Subtype work place potential strengths & weakness, & leadership strengths & weakness Taken from Mario Sikora

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Typing your subtype: Dyad exercise

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Choose your #1 and #2 sub-type preference Discuss with the person next to you why you have chosen that sub-type: Preserving Navigating/social Transmitting/one on one

Personalitythe natural tendency to go on automatic pilot & prefer “proven”, automatic behaviorsThe GOLDEN TRIANGLE : 

Personalitythe natural tendency to go on automatic pilot & prefer “proven”, automatic behaviorsThe GOLDEN TRIANGLE Habit Aliveness Anxiety Courage The realization that we’re not sure how to act Categorizing Authenticity Creating an image of what “is me” & what “is not me”

Review of the components of the Enneagram : 

Review of the components of the Enneagram Center of Intelligence Other groupings Your Ennea-type Strongest wing Triangle Subtypes The Golden Triangle

GOAL : 

GOAL Become responsive to the solution, move from resistance to responsiveness, be about personal growth, improving your own well-being, and have your inner world become aligned with your outer world: New choices = new outcomes

THE END….for now! : 

THE END….for now! Diane Pisanos ? Integrative Healthcare Consulting ? 303-755-9327 ? dpisanos1@aol.com Coaching skills for leaders? Optimizing personalities & teams at work ? Designing Self-Care & Integrative Care for optimal well-being ? Culture Transformation ? Personal, Professional & Group Coaching Challenges of using the Enneagram Recommended readings, resources What’s next? You can set up an appointment with me to understand your Enneagram number if you remain unclear.