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FEAR ManAgeMenT:

FEAR ManAgeMenT D.V. Madhusudan Rao Dept. MBA, School of Graduate Studies, Jigjiga University, ETHIOPIA Poverty, Old Age, Criticism , Rejection and Death


Introduction FEAR - MANAGEMENT There is no feeling like fear that robs a man of his peace of mind and tranquility. Millions and millions of hours are wasted by mankind when afflicted by fear. As Winston Churchill said, “We have nothing to fear but fear itself”. The envy thought of it saps the vital energy needed to function as a normal human being. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 2


WHAT IS FEAR? Fear is a feeling of alarm. It is an emotion caused by the expectation of danger, pain, or disaster. Therefore, it is clear that the expectation or awaiting the arrival of the disaster or pain itself is the culprit. If we can replace the expectation of danger with any other harmonious all kinds of havoc . 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 3


HOW DO WE SPELL FEAR? F -- Factious (Imaginary) E -- Experience (Mental Drama) A— Acting (Perceiving {run and return}) R— Real (Very vivid {by brooding over several times})   The more we dwell on fears the more substance and form we give to those fears, making them real experiences in life. The basic remedy for fear involves two things: Be watchful of thoughts of fear when they arise. Do not dwell on them - cast them out right away. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 4


TECHNIQUES OF FEAR MANAGEMENT Develop faith Cultivate fearlessness: Act fearless and you become fearless 3. Daily affirmations 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 5

1. Develop Faith:

1. Develop Faith Perhaps the most effective technique of managing one’s fears is through FAITH. Regardless of your race, color, or religion, if you develop faith in God it will help you combat fears more effectively. Faith helps to develop certain disciplines in everyday life, such as prayer, attending church, or going to a mosque on a regular basis which in turn converts them into mentally strong people. A category of people happens to stumble upon the principles of faith due to tragic personal experiences, which opened their inner eyes to look at life from a totally different perspective. They, too, become successful in managing their fears on a day-to day basis. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 6

2. Cultivate fearlessness:

2. Cultivate fearlessness Cultivate fearlessness: Fearlessness is the opposite of fear. Fear and fearlessness cannot coexist. When you exert yourself to cultivate fearlessness, slowly the fears that haunt you begin to go away. Fear will not become chronic and habitual, to be transformed into a malady. Act fearless and you become fearless: Always remember, you are what you think. If you think of your fears and dwell on them day and night they assume form and become real. The subconscious mind is an obedient servant and it will work out the master’s desire to its precision. The master says, “I am fearful of this task, let me make sure that this task is impossible for him”. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 7

3. Daily affirmations:

3. Daily affirmations Daily affirmations: A dose of daily affirmations is like a dose of vitamin pills. It will keep you mentally healthy and invulnerable to the mental ailment called fear. A healthy and harmonious mind will not entertain any fears. It is the weak and unbalanced mind that is exposed to threats of fear. So you must practice positive affirmations, on a daily basis to keep the mind clean and disinfected, so that even in a weak moment fears cannot enter your mind . 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 8


OUR COMMON FEARS There are certain basic fears we all entertain from time to time, depending upon our circumstances and our particular situation in life. Half the battle with fears will be won if only we can be prepared to tackle them no matter when they arise. Awareness is the key to managing our fears, as it will build readiness to deal with them, no matter what forms those fears assume. A brief description to these fears and their common remedies will help us to manage them on a daily basis. Some of our common fears are: Fear of Poverty Fear of Old age Fear of Criticism Fear of Rejection and Fear of Death 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 9

1. Fear of Poverty:

1. Fear of Poverty Fear of poverty arises when thoughts of the lack of money supply haunt someone day and night, causing him see mental pictures of extreme humiliation from his family and society as a whole. He sees extreme poverty around him, reads about it, and imagines that he will be confronted with this deadly disease. Many people in our society steal and become corrupt because of their fear of poverty. People even develop greed as a reaction to the fear of poverty. Poverty is mental disease, and it would become fatal and deadly unless checked before it assumes its full strength. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 10


HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF POVERTY Step #1. Substitute your thoughts of lack of wealth with thoughts of plenty. Remind yourself that God is the only source of supply. Step #2. Count your blessings: Recite the following frequently day and night (at least seven times a day): “I had the blues because I had no shoes until, upon the street, I saw a man who had no feet.” Step #3. Oh, Lord! I thank Thee for these wonderful blessings you have showered upon me. (Recite this at least seven times a day. Recite it loudly before going to sleep.) NOTE: A heart filled with gratitude is the only heart ready to receive more blessings. Step #4. Never criticize wealth, or people with wealth, saying that they have amassed it in the wrong way. Always rejoice in the success and wealth of other people. Step #5. Recite the following affirmation: Day by day, in every phase of my life, I am getting richer and richer. Thank you, Lord! 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 11

2. Fear of Old Age:

2. Fear of Old Age Fear of old age is another common fear we all harbor in our daily lives. We secretly visit those fearful thoughts very often, especially after one has crossed middle age, the midpoint in one’s life. The mental drama we stage on the screen of our mind, life any other fear, makes it vivid and crystal clear, resulting in the early onset of old age. Rather than looking at the negative aspect of old age, we must accent the positive aspect of it. But it becomes an extremely difficult task in a society possessed by the myth of youth. But any student of Mental Science can overcome this fear by constantly working at it diligently and with utmost faith. Always remember that the secret of youth is the power of thought. As long as one can entertain youthful thoughts, one will remain youthful at heart (and Mind), and the messengers of atrophy will not attack. A body is nothing but an extension of the mind itself. In fact, our bodies exist only in our minds. Therefore, a young mind (filled with youthful thoughts encased in imagination and excitement of life) is a prerequisite for a young body, which can put a lid on the aging process or at least, depending upon one’s degree of belief, prevent premature aging. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 12

How to overcome fear of Old Age:

How to overcome fear of Old Age Step #1. Fill your days with activity. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Write down short-term and long-term goals. Step #2. Plan your retirement ahead. Do not consider it as the end of activity, but a change of vocation. Great accomplishments came from individuals after retirement. Study Biographies of: Henry Ford Thomas Edison Michelangelo John Milton Winston Churchill Mahatma Gandhi Lee Iacocca Step #3. Pursue a childhood ambition-like becoming an author, speaker, teacher, priest, or the life. Go to school if it is required to pursue new interest. Step #4. Be with young people. “Why look for the livings among the dead?” If you want to feel young, spend time with young people. Step #5. Make your life exciting. Have something to look forward to, and live for. You might even plan a second honeymoon. Excitement is the fuel that runs the engine of life. Step #6. Keep a “thought recorder”. Review it periodically and include thoughts in your memories. It’s your gift to future generations . 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 13

3. Fear of Criticism:

3. Fear of Criticism Many people do not try to do anything new because of fear of criticism. Inactivity and lethargy that we see prevalent in the modern world is direct testimony to the fear of criticism. Most of the time you’ll be criticized for doing something out of the ordinary. The power of the fear of criticism is so influential that most people abstain from it. It eats them from the inside out as they watch the mental dramas of such fear taking a heavy toll on their lives. It could be fear of criticism from the immediate family friends, business associates, or society. Unless and until corrective measures are taken to prevent this fear from taking firm root in the soil of your mind, it could destroy the harmony that otherwise reign in your mental sphere. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 14


HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF CRITICISM Step #1. Make a list of all possible criticisms you might hear. Prioritize them on a scale of one to ten. Step #2. Write down a reply to each of these criticisms in clear language. By the time you finish writing the replies, you might muster strength to face those criticisms. Step # 3. Most of the time, you’ll have doubts in your own mind about the worth of the cause. Review your own convictions about the causes for which you are fighting. Step #4. Once you are convinced that you really stand for the cause, the shadows of fear will slowly begin to disappear. Step #5. Pray for guidance . 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 15

4. Fear of Rejection:

4. Fear of Rejection Fear of rejection is one of the very common fears that affect people of all walks of life. We all need a certain amount of acceptance from loved ones and society as a whole to perform our best. When such acceptance becomes rare and not forthcoming life becomes miserable and, depending on the degree of rejection, people even try to end lives. A clear understanding of this type of fear, and various remedies available to combat them, will help everyone to straighten out his or her personal life. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 16


HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION Step #1. Understand rejection. Ninety-nine percent of the rejection that we feel is figment of our imagination. It is the result of self-doubt. Step #2. Persistence is the only known remedy to overcome fear of rejection. Keep on persisting until success comes at last. Step #3. A daily dose of positive affirmations is a good preventive measure for rejection. Step #4. Visualize acceptance. See yourself mentally before the person having a harmonious conversation. Keep on seeing the mental drama until it is a reality. Step #5. Bless the person “Rejecting you”. Release your unconditional love toward that person. Every time you experience rejection, practice the above five steps and fear of rejection should trouble you no more. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 17

5. Fear of Death:

5. Fear of Death All other fears we discussed above are tributaries of the fear of death. As a matter of fact, mortal fear is the mother of all fears that a human being consciously or unconsciously harbors of life in this world, in this form and body, not much has been taught about death. The only way to overcome the fear of death is to understand this phenomenon in every detail, and be ready to face it finally when it approaches. He who entertains the fear of death is consumed by it, making life impossible as a pleasant and harmonious experience. To put it simply, fear of death is worse than death itself. Nobody can understand the phenomenon and the mystery of death without understanding life itself, as death is part and parcel of life. Anybody who is born in this world has to die one day, and as such dying is an integral part of life. The only uncertainty about death is when, where, and how it will happen. Since the scientific community has shown an increased interest in thanatology (the study of death) during the last couple of decades, we all can hope that there will be adequate research and dissemination of knowledge in this darkest continent of enlightenment. Fear of death is not different from any other fears as it emanates from ignorance or unfamiliarity. So the first and foremost important task in our effort to contain this mortal fear is to be thoroughly familiarized with the process of dying as an integral part of life itself. Nobody can understand death without understanding life, as the former is an extension of the latter. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 18


HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF DEATH Step #1. Understand life; death will become familiar. Ask the question “Who dies?” Step #2 . Study the phenomenon of death in all its details. Read any and all the books you can find on the subject. Knowledge is power. Step #3. Death is inevitable. So why fear? Embrace it as “ Maha nidra ” or long sleep. The most difficult task for any individual to undertake is task of change; Most of us turn our backs to change because of the uncertainties attached to it. Everybody welcomes change, if he or she knows what to expect. This is the moment of truth when falsities must drop, and you sincerely want to change for the better. Remove your mask of pretensions, as you do not have to convince anybody but yourself that you can change. 5/21/2014 Madhusudan Rao D.V. 19

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