icp danielle o"donnell

Interpersonal Communication ProjectLiberty University : 

Interpersonal Communication ProjectLiberty University HSER 508 Danielle O’Donnell December 12, 2010

Introduction : 

Introduction My Overarching Goal Enlarging the conversation My background and Behavioral Blend My Potential Barriers within my Interpersonal Communication both internally and externally Identifying and Providing Solutions to Noise Pollution My Plan of Action

My Overarching Goal (OAG) : 

My Overarching Goal (OAG) To implement the tools I have learned throughout this course, and to become an effective listener. Overall it is my goal to be able to take charge of situations and influence their outcome (Burley-Allen, 1995 p. 11). Proverbs 18:13 states “The one who gives an answer before he listens – that is his folly and his shame” (NSV).

Enlarging the Conversation : 

Enlarging the Conversation I can enlarge my conversation by applying my overarching goal to my professional and personal life. Promoting dialogue involves the four D’s dialogue, debate, discussion, and deliberation (Stewart, 2009, p.  551). Dialogue is a dynamic process which can happen between distinguishable moments (p. 565). In fact effective dialogue can reduce stereotyping and increase mutual understanding (p. 569).

Who I am : 

Who I am Wife Mother Sister Daughter Friend Confidant I base my choices on my heart not my gut. I tend to think everyone means well, and in the end I realize their intentions and mine are completely different.

Behavioral Blend : 

Behavioral Blend I am a C/I/S C/I/S. I am firm, independent, inspiring, magnetic, enthusiastic, and yet resistant to change, possessive, consistent, and stable (Carbonell, 2008, p. 191). My behavior is governed by always trying, and putting my best foot forward in life.

Positive and Negative Influences : 

Positive and Negative Influences Positive Firm Independent Inspiring Magnetic Enthusiastic Negative Resistant To Change Possessive Consistent Stable It is through my unique blends I can identify my self as an individual and also become more self aware.

Potential Barriers In Interpersonal Communication : 

Potential Barriers In Interpersonal Communication Emotional listening Make sure to listen at a level 1 Look out for high emotions high emotions whether positive or negative interfere with our listening abilities frustration and feeling misunderstood Starosta& Guo-Ming State, “Selective reception of Culture and stereotypes is considered a barrier to global listening” (2000, p. 3).

Potential Barriers In My Interpersonal Communication Due to Listening Styles I am Guilty of : 

Potential Barriers In My Interpersonal Communication Due to Listening Styles I am Guilty of The faker The dependent listener The interrupter The self conscious listener The intellectual or logical listener

Identifying and Providing Solutions to Noise Pollution : 

Identifying and Providing Solutions to Noise Pollution External Talker not speaking loud enough Pressures from work Watching the clock Loud noises Traffic Machinery Television and radio Internal Values and beliefs Stereotypes Thinking of what to say next Fatigue Being self-conscious Goby states, “The barrier most frequently cited as hindering effective listening was the engagement in daydreaming” (2008, p. 11). (Burley-Allen, 1995 p. 68-69)

My Plan of Action : 

My Plan of Action I have learned throughout this course it is important to know and understand our communication needs and the needs of those around us. When I can I would also like to implement Peterson’s talker-listener card, since this provides helpful reminders when it is time to speak and time to listen (2007, p. 5). This would be a good game to play at home to help teach my children the importance of listening to others. Striving to listen at a level 1 is my overall plan of action. With this understanding of being an Empathetic listener I know I will be able to listen from the heart, be empathetic to the speakers around me, and even be able to see where the speaker is coming from (1995, p.14).

References : 

References Burley-Allen, M. (1995). Listening: The forgotten skill (2nd ed.). New York: John Wiley Sons, Inc. Carbonell, M., (2008). How to solve the people puzzle.  Blue Ridge, GA:  Uniquely You Goby, V. (2008). Radio commercial listening behaviour: Barriers and avoidance. Australian Journal of Communication, 35(1), 27-39. Retrieved from EBSCOhost. Peterson, J. C (2207). Why don’t we listen better?. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications. Starosta, W. J., & Guo-Ming, C. (2000). PART III. CHAPTER FIFTEEN: Listening Across Diversity in Global Society. In , Communication & Global Society (pp. 279-293). Peter Lang Publishing, Inc. Retrieved from EBSCOhost. Stewart, J. (ed) 2006. Bridges not walls (9th Ed). Boston , MA: McGraw Hill. The Holy Bible. (1994). New International Version. Zondervan Publishing.