Bullying

What if Our School Was Like This…:

What if Our School Was Like This… May 2, 2011

What is Bullying?:

What is Bullying? Exposing another person to either verbal or physical harm, or threatening to harm another person with the purpose of controlling the other person’s thoughts and/or actions.

Let’s stop it NOW, before high school. :

Let’s stop it NOW, before high school. Video

Class Discussion:

Class Discussion GROUND RULES Listen to each other No put downs or name calling Questions are welcomed Respect each other

Class Discussion:

Class Discussion Why do you think bullies bully? Imagine someone is bullying your best friend or little brother/sister, how does that make you feel?

Some things to think about…:

Some things to think about… Bullies probably have been bullied themselves. They’ve been hurt and feel a sense of relief and power from hurting others. Lowering others makes them feel elevated and somewhat better about themselves. There is a sense of importance associated with controlling others. Some bullies get caught up in a group that encourages bullying and is afraid they will be bullied if they do not side with the group.

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? :

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? DIRECT BULLYING Physical Aggression Pushing Shoving Spitting Kicking Hitting Defacing Property Stealing Physical acts that are demeaning and humiliating but not bodily harmful Locking in a closed or confined space Physical violence against family or friends Threatening with a weapon Inflicting bodily harm

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? :

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? DIRECT BULLYING Verbal Aggression Aggression Mocking Name-Calling Dirty looks Taunting Teasing about clothing or possessions Teasing about appearance Verbal threats of aggression against property or possessions Verbal threats of violence or of inflicting bodily harm

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? :

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? DIRECT BULLYING Intimidation Threatening to reveal personal information Graffiti Publicly challenging to do something Defacing property or clothing Playing a dirty trick Taking possessions (e.g. clothing, pencils, lunch, etc.)

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? :

Are you a bully and don’t realize it? INDIRECT BULLYING Social Alienation Gossiping Embarrassing Setting up to look foolish Spreading rumors Ethnic slurs Setting up to take the blame Publicly humiliating Excluding from the group Social rejection Maliciously excluding Manipulating social order to achieve rejection Threatening with total isolation by peer groups

What would a bully free environment look and feel like?:

What would a bully free environment look and feel like? Use handout 1 to brainstorm.

What would a bully free environment look like?:

What would a bully free environment look like? Video

Class Discussion:

Class Discussion GROUND RULES Listen to each other No put downs or name calling Questions are welcomed Respect each other

Class Discussion:

Class Discussion Without using names, fill out worksheet 2 by writing or drawing examples of bullying you have seen in school? Be prepared to share. ************************************************ What can people who are bullied do about it? What should they do? What should bystanders do if they see someone getting bullied? Handout 2

Do you feel like Napoleon at the end of the day?:

Do you feel like Napoleon at the end of the day? Video

What if the strategies are not enough to stop someone from bullying you?:

What if the strategies are not enough to stop someone from bullying you?

How do you report bullying?:

How do you report bullying? How to Report For Victims Report the incident to a teacher, counselor, or principal. Your name should be kept confidential; make sure you are promised this. Write down what was done or said to you and how you responded. Bullies will often try to shift the blame. Make a list of witnesses.

How do you report bullying?:

How do you report bullying? How to Report For Bystanders Intervene in the situation. Tell the bully to stop and comfort the victim. Stand up to the bully and support the victim Report the incident to a teacher, counselor, or principal. Your name should be kept confidential; make sure you are promised this. Write down what was done or said. Write down everyone who witnessed the situation.

Self Respect:

Self Respect Teach others how to treat you. We all deserve to be treated well and teach others how to treat us by our reactions to them. Keep a record of events. Express your feelings by writing them down, and if things get too bad, showing someone the diary is a good way to help someone understand what you are going through. Talk to someone. Ask for help, and keep asking until you get it. Treat others the way you want to be treated. This should be a model for how all relationships should go. Being a victim of a bully is rarely something that you can control, but you can control your own response to others.

Reflection-- Bullying Metaphors:

Reflection-- Bullying Metaphors Video