Eros (erotic)—passionate, romantic love :
Eros (erotic)—passionate, romantic love Erotic lovers fall in love early in a relationship
Love is very intense and passionate
The erotic lover wants to share everything with and know everything about the loved one
The erotic lover thinks of his/her partner in an idealized manner
The erotic lover’s reaction to criticism from his/her partner is one of hurt and intense pain
The erotic lovers reaction to separation from the partner is agony and despair
Ludus (ludic)—love as a game :
Ludus (ludic)—love as a game Ludics have a very self-oriented approach to love
Ludics minimize dependency and commitment
They rarely or never become overly involved with one partner and often have more than on partner at a time
They don’t reveal their true thoughts and feelings to their partner, especially if they think they can gain some kind of advantage over their partner
Usually want sex (plenty of it) for pleasure
Reaction to criticism from the partner is indifference
Reaction to separation form the partner is immediate replacement
Storge (storgic)—love as friendship or companionship :
Storge (storgic)—love as friendship or companionship Storge love develops slowly
It grows out of mutual understanding, rapport, respect, companionship, sharing, and concern
It is not characterized by high levels of ecstasy and excitement (as is eros), but is a solid, stable, enduring love
Reaction to criticism from partner—give and take, compromise, constructive problem solving
Reaction to separation—feelings of emptiness and loss
Mania (manic)—is obsessive, jealous, and addictive :
Mania (manic)—is obsessive, jealous, and addictive Manic lovers are obsessive, jealous, irrational, possessive, and consumed by thoughts of their lovers
They need constant attention, affection, and togetherness
Love is very intense
They frequently put love to the test for the sake of reassurance
Their reaction to criticism from partner—defensiveness, hypersensitivity, and sometimes violence
Their reaction to separation—instant panic
Agage (agapic)—kind, unselfish love :
Agage (agapic)—kind, unselfish love Agape love is altruistic
The agapic lover gets more pleasure from giving in a relationship than from receiving
The apapic lover is very forgiving, patient, understanding, loyal, and willing to make sacrifices for his/her partner
Their reaction to criticism form the partner—willingness to change or compromise
Their reaction to separation from the partner—sense of loss and emptiness
Pragma—is a very pragmatic or practical approach to love :
Pragma—is a very pragmatic or practical approach to love It is very logical and realistic
Pragmatic lovers are self-oriented
Their reaction to criticism from the partner—defensive, analytical