Class 5 RELATIONSHIPS test

Ways to work thorough your“Relationships “ : 

Ways to work thorough your“Relationships “

Business : 

Business The material in this site is provided for educational and informational purposes only. The material does not constitute therapy or the establishment of a therapeutic relationship and it is not intended to be a substitute for a health care provider's consultation. This program offers only for the purpose of self development. Please consult your own physician or appropriate health care provider with respect to your own symptoms or medical conditions.

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WELCOME PRESENTATION

Overview : 

Overview Men questions and answers open forum group discussion What motivates them in relationships What are there expectations of there partner Sexual expectations Trust, honesty, and desires Lets get the answers Note: no one has to participate they can listen and learn its what ur comfortable with

Questions & Answers : 

Questions & Answers Invite questions from the audience

Resources : 

Resources List the resources you used for your research

Relationships : 

Relationships How is success going to improve your relationships? If you achieve the goal, will your family or social life improve in any way? How exactly? If not directly, will it change your mood and attitude thereby improving the state of your relationships as a byproduct?

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Rating your relationships at workBy Karen Schmidt Human beings are social creatures. To varying degrees, we all need other people around us and it’s the same at work. So how would you rate your relationships at work? Relationships can exist on many levels. When you communicate with people you are often communicating to them the level of relationship you are seeking. So let’s look at the types of relationships you can have.

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IndifferentNot really interested in an ongoing relationship but we may be forced to deal with this person on a short term basis. For example, the person who sits next to you on a plane.

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SuperficialWe say hello, please and thank you but they don’t really mean anything. We are unlikely to remember anything much about the person. For example, the person serving you at the supermarket.

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FriendlyFor some people this is their lowest level relationship. Friendly is when we start to have genuine interest in the other person so when we smile we really mean it. For example, a neighbour you encounter regularly.

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Co-operativeBeyond friendly, we get co-operative so now we are likely to go out of our way to help the other person. For example, helping your neighbour carry a heavy parcel.

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SupportiveThe relationship has now taken on a signification level of interaction. A supportive person keeps in contact regularly and offers help. For example, minding your neighbours pet while they are on holiday.

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EncouragingThe highest level of a relationship occurs when there is more than just practical support. The encouraging relationship demonstrates a real concern for others and a willingness to put their needs ahead of yours. For example, encouraging your spouse to change jobs and being willing to make sacrifices while they adjust.

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For many of us, our relationships start out at a lower level and progress up the hierarchy as we develop trust and rapport with the other person. However, there are two other extremes to consider. Some people deliberately don’t form relationships past the friendly level for fear of being hurt. At the other end of the scale, some people are so trusting of others they jump quickly to the supportive level even if the other person isn’t ready for it.

You ARE good at change : 

You ARE good at change By Karen Schmidt Change . . . it’s a word that seems to strike fear into the hearts of most employees. Whether its new technology, restructuring, mergers, downsizing, they all mean one thing – we have to change, again. For many people it’s almost as though they have to complain about change. You wouldn’t want to be seen to endorse it because then management might give you more of it! So they spend lots of time resisting.

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All this resistance to change is unnecessary and energy sapping. Imagine if you could channel all the energy you put into complaining about change at work and use it to your advantage.

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Sure, workplace change is stressful but let’s keep it in proportion. The truth is human beings are the masters of change. We’ve been doing it for centuries. We have been forced to change for many reasons . . . the industrial revolution, World Wars, technology, even climate change. People as a whole are good at overcoming difficulty and adapting to suit their environment.

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On a personal level, each of us is experienced at change. Just look at your life, especially the first few years when you changed from crawling to walking, when you started talking instead of crying. Then there are the everyday changes like moving house, getting married and having children. People seem able to adapt to these changes but ask them to do a similar thing at work and they claim it’s too hard.

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So what can you learn from these past changes that can help you to deal with change at work? When analysing a past change it is important to look at all aspects of the situation to gather information to help you in the future.

JUDGEMENTS : 

JUDGEMENTS Releasing negative judgments

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DEPENDANCE

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent I was communicating with a wise friend and we were talking about relationships. We were talking about romantic relationships at the time, but after thinking about it, the exchange we shared could be true of any significant relationship … between friends, co-workers, employees, and parents with children.

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent We all want healthy, happy relationships in which we fully express who we are and we want the other person to authentically express who he/she is. I mentioned that the end result is that we want to be "INDEPENDENT, INTERDEPENDENT BEINGS WITHOUT BEING CODEPENDENT." Yikes! What the heck does that mean? OK, I admit, it's a little "coachy" sounding, but let me explain what I mean here.

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent By INDEPENDENT, I mean that each one of us can function as a self-reliant person. We are aware of what our special gifts are and who we are in relation to ourselves, to others, and to God. We know we are unique individuals who are free to be who we want to be. By trusting that we are wonderful just as we are (although always a work in progress), we make a valuable contribution to the world.

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent Our independence and acceptance of responsibility allows us to have boundaries in place that help others know how to respond to us and know what is acceptable for us. Autonomy allows us to safely, fully express our needs and desires to those we are in relation with.

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent By INTERDEPENDENCE, I mean that we all need other people. Even though we are independent beings, we are not meant to be alone. We are all interrelated and everyone needs to feel needed. You have your gifts and other people have theirs. Why not leverage the odds and work together to support one another?

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent Interdependence is your connection with others. It's often the measuring stick for the quality of your life. How well you can relate and how comfortable others feel relating to you is crucial for a joyful life. Your interactions and communication together can create extraordinary outcomes!

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent Some people may feel that needing others is a sign of weakness, but with interdependence, the essence is really about working with a partner (or team) toward a common goal. It's empowering and it's a choice born of strengths and respect. Interdependence is wanting the best for others …valuing, trusting and cherishing their unique abilities, while still being secure about your own.

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent On the other hand, there is CODEPENDENCY. Co-dependency allows the actions of others to determine the quality of our life. It is based on self-limiting beliefs and care-taking of others with little regard for yourself. I believe most of us want to please others and can, therefore, be categorized as co-dependent to a certain degree, but I am describing something far more oppressing here.

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Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent Earnie Larsen, an expert in co-dependency, describes it as: "Those self-defeating, learned behaviours that result in a diminished capacity to initiate or participate in loving relationships." I always think of co-dependency as loving others more than we love ourselves. While I will agree that being of service to others is of the utmost importance, being singularly focused on others with little regard for the gift that YOU are is not what God intended for us. In the Bible (see Leviticus 19:18, Mark 12:31 and Romans 13:9), we are charged to "love our neighbours AS OURSELVES."

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent Therefore, the objective remains "INDEPENDENT INTERDEPENDENCE WITHOUT CODEPENDENCY." Take an honest look at your relationships, both personally and professionally. Are you being responsible in your relations? What actions can you take to improve on them?

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent : 

Being Independent and Interdependent, but not Co-dependent The only way to make things better is to be aware, acknowledge and then act. Action is the key to changing the way things are and the gateway to something even better. And you definitely deserve that!

Conclusion : 

Conclusion Provide a brief summary of your presentation

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SUCCESS: is to appreciate beauty, find the best in others, and give of one’s self

Who am I? : 

Who am I?