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A Route Map for Nair Resurgence byDr N.Sadasivan,M.A.,TESOL M.Litt(CIEFL)D.Litt(Addis Ababa)NELTS(Outstanding)TrivandrumIndia2011@Copyright 2007WindowsPPS : 

5/2/2011 2 A Route Map for Nair Resurgence byDr N.Sadasivan,M.A.,TESOL M.Litt(CIEFL)D.Litt(Addis Ababa)NELTS(Outstanding)TrivandrumIndia2011@Copyright 2007WindowsPPS

Our Route Map : 

Our Route Map RUNWAY (3 to 36) A decided Minority A SWOT Analysis A Felt Need to Take Off TAKE OFF!(37 to 83) Mindset Change Family Soiree & Prayer A Blueprint for Future Using Woman Power Temple Deity Take Off! 5/2/2011 3

Our Life on this Earth : 

5/2/2011 4 Our Life on this Earth

Placing the Indian Nair community : 

Placing the Indian Nair community India’s Total Population(1-1-11):1.21+ billion TN Hindu Population: 5.4985 crores(88.1%) KK District Population: Not available Total Nair Population in KK: 3.08 lakhs * Please note what a micro sample we are in India! 5/2/2011 5

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Basic Data on Tamil Nadu : 

Basic Data on Tamil Nadu Total Population 2011:7,21,38958 Adult Males &kids … :3,61,58871 Adult Females & kids .: 3,59,80087 % of Indian Population:5.96 Growth Rate/Year..: 15.60% Christian Population:5.2 Crores (2011) Dalit Xian fundamentalism ? :YES. 5/2/2011 7

The Nair Community Gene Pool : 

5/2/2011 Pink: Oval: Total Blue dough: Nairs 8 The Nair Community Gene Pool

The Nairs of India : 

5/2/2011 9 The Nairs of India

Their Glorious Past : 

Their Glorious Past Past Links with: The rulers of Travancore The local kingdom’s army brass Local government machinery The rich and the powerful elite Landowner Class Feudal System 5/2/2011 10

A Million Dollar Question : 

A Million Dollar Question This Gene Pool to die out for ever? “Yes! Let the Nairs die out!” Deterioration of Nair community-poverty-unemployment/stagnation-apocalypse “No! I’m ready to prevent its disappearance at any cost!”: Action Plan—Implementation-Fulfillment of life’s dreams-joy, fame and prosperity 5/2/2011 11

A Gentle Reminder! : 

A Gentle Reminder! “Rabbits are What coyotes are for” (Kate Ryan, US Poet laureate) 5/2/2011 12

Apocalypse? : 

Apocalypse? Relegation to menial social hierarchy Open denial of employment openings Widespread depression, distress sale “A nonentity vote bank” label 5/2/2011 13

Apocalypse II : 

Apocalypse II Loss of landed property Fate? Zodiac? Effect of Previous Life? Servile life style, Short lifespan Disappearance of Nair community 5/2/2011 14

An Ethnic Minority? : 

An Ethnic Minority? A minority community must: Remain united in order to survive Learn to demand to be heard Never bicker within itself for power Learn to co-operate with even rivals Ensure family level harmony Have a clear vision and a time-bound mission. 5/2/2011 15

‘Reform or Perish’ Juncture : 

‘Reform or Perish’ Juncture The Price of Community Stagnation Resistance to Lifestyle Change Political North Wind: Zero Reservation Social Pressures: BPL and APL Labels Family level Challenge: Entropy Money Crunch Stress from Tradition/Custom/Rituals 5/2/2011 16

Essentials for Community survival : 

Essentials for Community survival A: Building Family Monolith B: Multi-level Networking Habit C: “One for All and All for One!” Mindset D: Reinforcing Nair Unity 24/7/365 5/2/2011 17

No Magic Formula! : 

No Magic Formula! Change needed in Life style, Parental Goals, Family goals Desire for Self Improvement Parenting Attitudes/Mores Home life (diet, workout, group prayer) Customs, Mindset, Conventions Behavior/Socializing Patterns Health maintenance 5/2/2011 18

Triggers for Downfall : 

Triggers for Downfall Internal, external causes Political, social and economic triggers Unexpected, Unprepared for Shift No Prospect for regaining lost past “Forward Community” Brand Only a few open slots in job market Bias for clean/white collar jobs 5/2/2011 19

Public Domain : 

Public Domain Fragmentation of Family Property Loss of land through ‘reforms’ Blotches on Family Harmony Urban Migration, Empty Nest Syndrome Indifference to Community Spirit Blots on career (HoF/offspring) 5/2/2011 20

External Forces : 

External Forces EF 1: Migration/Immigration/Kid alienation EF2: Indifference to family identity EF 2: Fragmentation Impulses EF 3: Distress Property Sale EF 4: End of Monarchy EF 5: Painful State Policies EF 6: Demise of Joint Family System 5/2/2011 21

Private Domain : 

Private Domain Temperament Nostalgia Family Surname Complex Etiquette Pitfalls: Ego & Hauteur Monomania & Megalomania Sexual Promiscuity 5/2/2011 22

Private Domain-II : 

Private Domain-II Lack of Resilience towards others Workplace Politics & Consequences: Official (Yellow/Pink slips) Economic( Money crunch/Borrowing) Familial (Partner Stress/Outsider Syndrome) Social (Loss of friends/Supportive Structure) Emotional ( Suicide mindset/Addictions) 5/2/2011 23

At the Workplace : 

At the Workplace Gossip/“Groupism”/Petty politics Abuse of Position: Sexual/Official Overuse of Caste/Region Mindset Indiscipline, Hauteur, Bragging, Booze Intransigence/Strike/Sit-in/Pen-down Suspension/Dismissal 5/2/2011 24

Rating on Home Front : 

Rating on Home Front As a responsible family head:0 to 10? As life partner: 0 to 10? As a committed father:0 to 10? As a neighbor:0 to 10? As a citizen with civic sense:0 to 10? As a true blood Nair: 0 to 10? As a team member :0 to 10? 5/2/2011 25

At community level : 

At community level Participation Degree in Marital Engagements/ Weddings Funerals and funeral rituals thereafter Family contingencies/crises At family temple festivals Shared family events 5/2/2011 26

Inside SHG,NHG and NSS : 

Inside SHG,NHG and NSS ‘Holier than Thou’ Stance Negative WoM Position-hankering/Silo Mindset Malfeasance/Lack of trustworthiness Multi-level Sex Offenses& Consequences Irresponsible Demeanor Tendency to Splinter 5/2/2011 27

Familial Mindsets : 

Familial Mindsets : “We are better than them!” ..Snobbery “May the Devil take others!” ..Egotism “My jeweler and I alone!” ..Egoism “After us, the deluge!”..Lack of social sense “I don’t help anyone else”..Insularity 5/2/2011 28

Personal Ego : 

Personal Ego “Why must I promote other Nairs?” (Comm.Spirit) “Why need I waste time over NSS?” (Orgnzl Sense) “Must I alone help parents/siblings?” (Egotism) “Goddess Lakshmi divides us!” (Wealth Barrier) “We are Exclusive!” (Overblown Id) 5/2/2011 29

S for Strength : 

S for Strength Average health/stamina Talent Spectrum A God-fearing mindset Willing to exert under pressure Potential for Networking Hope for material success/Assets Average Sociability Quotient 5/2/2011 30

W for Weakness : 

W for Weakness Higher preference for white collar vocations Aversion to “menial” occupations Bias for impressive appearance Susceptibility to rituals/superstitions Disorganized Approach to life Gullibility Simple Simon Syndrome 5/2/2011 31

Weaknesses-II : 

Weaknesses-II Parental mindset to Sports/Athletics/Games Daily Exercise Culture Deadline Mindset Unplanned Family Budget Affinity for Food/Drinks Love for Comfort/Security Risk Appetite Quotient Low. 5/2/2011 32

Politics can Bite You! : 

Politics can Bite You! Keep your politics for the Voting Booth! Vote according to your conscience! Make no public comments on your stand! No dining table discussion with kids Politics as a Wedge Addiction to Party Wooing Martyrdom! 5/2/2011 33

Social factors : 

Social factors Hope for Social Elevation Aptitude for Business Ambition Level Support for Community Get-together Regimen Urban Migration Instinct 5/2/2011 34

O for Opportunities : 

O for Opportunities Migrating to the West Serving Indian/MNC firms Securing Corporate Positions Working for Nair Synergy Rendering Public Service Cultivating Political Clout Acquiring useful Skills 5/2/2011 35

T for Threats-I : 

T for Threats-I Sibling rivalry/Power Play Dissension & Disunity ‘Generation Gap', Filial Alienation Pressure for Parent-Dumping Marital Squabbles & Imbalances Separation, Live-In & Divorce In-law Intrusions & Dowry Demon Neglect of Family Identity 5/2/2011 36

T for Threats-II : 

T for Threats-II External: Nadar Challenge Political Hostility Plebeian gangs Local government Neighbors Peers 5/2/2011 37

Social Stress Trigger-1 : 

Social Stress Trigger-1 Nadar Power Zest for Wealth/Assets Distancing the Past. Involvement in A-Z business lines Aggressive Marketing Verve High Networking Habit Church Support(covert/overt) Esprit de Corps/Fanaticism 5/2/2011 38

Nadar:Nair::The Wealth Gap : 

Nadar:Nair::The Wealth Gap 5/2/2011 39

A Route Map for Our Prosperity : 

A Route Map for Our Prosperity Direction for Nair Growth 5/2/2011 40

Let’s Take off Now! : 

A. Short Term Objectives: a. World View Shift b. Purposefulness c. Motivation maintenance B: Long term Objectives: a. Action-packed lifestyle b. Higher earnings and more assets c. Monolithic households 5/2/2011 41 Let’s Take off Now!

A Multi Pronged Approach : 

A Multi Pronged Approach Personal level: Change in Mindset, View of Life, Self-Confidence. Family level: Internal Harmony, Emotional Balance, Reach Out steps. NHG level: Helpful reliable citizen, Co-operative, Progressive Community level: Collective Thinking/Action 5/2/2011 42

Freedom doesn’t mean: : 

Freedom doesn’t mean: Demanding/Accepting Dowry Ignoring/Abetting Bride Burning Accepting Assault/Domestic Violence Approving Polygamy/Polyandry Abetting Property Destruction Forgiving One Night Stands/7-Year Itch Asking for Bribes Addictions 5/2/2011 43

Heaven : 

Heaven Equilibrium in Family Emotional Balance for all members Freedom from Poverty/Depression/Worry Healthy and Cheerful Kids A large Friends’ Circle to connect with Open Communication Channels at home Pleasant Manners in behavior 5/2/2011 44

A-1 Parenting : 

A-1 Parenting 5/2/2011 45

Home Training : 

Home Training Speaking Game Minimal use of TV Mini Home Library and Garden Involvement in Projects Topic of the Week Weekly Quiz Dumb Charade JAM Sessions 5/2/2011 46

Leadership Benefits : 

Leadership Benefits Higher Self-Esteem Deeper Confidence Greater Career Focus Better Interaction with Peers/Families Salutary Community Impact 5/2/2011 47

Hell : 

Hell We MUST be free from Poverty Crisis Mental Stagnation Fossilized Mindsets Slavery to Traditional Notions Loneliness(Weak relationship/Friction) Unrelieved Stress 5/2/2011 48

Work Culture : 

Work Culture Keep Busy at Home and Office Assist Hubby/Wife/Kids Visit Own People Action Discussion/Brainstorming Keep Off Idiot Box Ongoing Improvement of Self Investment in Fitness 5/2/2011 49

Have Zero Fear! : 

Have Zero Fear! The most terrifying prospect for the human being reaching for his dream, is that he can truly become the person he's destined to be! 5/2/2011 50

Let’s be Positive! : 

Let’s be Positive! Though the devil may stand behind our back, We'll not see his shadow fall,But read the signs in the morning stars Of a good world after all! (An Australian Poem) 5/2/2011 51

Zero Reservation :Boon/Bane? : 

Boon : a. More competitive spirit. b. Trigger for higher youth migration. c. Superior educational status. d. Reliable source for kid motivation. e. Foreign stipends/scholarships for more. 5/2/2011 52 Zero Reservation :Boon/Bane?

Strengthening the Family : 

Strengthening the Family Six Keys to it! Commitment Compassion Generosity Tolerance Kindness Connectivity Mindset 5/2/2011 53

Smile for a Change! : 

Smile for a Change! Smile is the Lighting System of your faceThe Cooling System of your heartBoosting System of your MindSo, SMILE ! 5/2/2011 54

Shake Hands! : 

Shake Hands! Whenever you meet colleagues, relatives and superiors in Office Clasp hands vertically Shake only THREE times.(No pumping!) As you smile at someone On the road and in the market As you express your joy through your eyes 5/2/2011 55

Be Expert at Something! : 

Be Expert at Something! Both personal and community branding needed. Every Nair can and must strive to excel in: Vocation/Profession Hobbies/Sports/Games Arts and Culture Politics and Administration Any honorable line of work. 5/2/2011 56

Acquire Cyber Literacy! : 

Acquire Cyber Literacy! PC familiarity vital for networking. Networking vital for multilevel harmony. Email ID and MS Office skills an asset Global hallmark of a progressive community. Potential for enhancing income/leadership Route to self-confidence/employment for youth in family. 5/2/2011 57

A Time-Bound Approach : 

A Time-Bound Approach Short Term Objectives(2011-2015): Put your own home in order Ensure Outlook change within family Trend-spot your extra income source/s Long Term Objectives (2016-2020): Ensure kids employment Be active in Community Promotion 5/2/2011 58

Need for A Soiree : 

Need for A Soiree Brings together 2 or 3 generations Infuses in kids a Family Identity Affords concerted approach to Problems Cements Youth Friendships Relaxes the women and the elderly Helps periodic Life Sharing Strengthens Family Cohesion 5/2/2011 59

Timing for Family Soirees : 

Timing for Family Soirees Prior to: Family Temple Festivals Family level celebrations(E.g. weddings/new arrivals/promotion of member/marital engagements) Starting a business(cottage level, SSI) Launching a book/feature film/dance debut 5/2/2011 60

Venue for Soirees : 

Venue for Soirees First Priority: The hall at own parental home Second Priority: A local auditorium Third Priority: Rented Halls in townships (native/foster nation) 5/2/2011 61

An Agenda for Soirees : 

An Agenda for Soirees Collective prayer by all family members Respecting the senior most elders ‘State of the Family’ Speech by an elder Focusing on Youth in Family Appreciation of youth talent in each field Infusing Community and Family Identity Cementing Family Unity 5/2/2011 62

Network Efficiently! : 

Network Efficiently! Dire need to network more through Email, telephone, cell phone and post Exchange Email IDs, cell phone numbers at every Soiree session/Taluk level meeting Discuss and confront community issues actively Activate local NSS Units Need for a Culture of Mutual Appreciation. 5/2/2011 63

Jhansi Rani Women’s Wing : 

Jhansi Rani Women’s Wing Wear “JRWW” Badges as leaders Ensure smooth conduct of Soirees/Meets Help with regular attendance Zest for discussion and action( Taluk Level) Maintain women’s motivation level Help the Treasurer in account Deal with women’s issues inside Nair families. 5/2/2011 64

JR Youth Brigade : 

JR Youth Brigade Systematizes Records Assists JRWW Maintains the Community Motivation Explores new Options Drives the Nair Team Spirit Streamlines Soiree Sessions Manages Family/Community Events 5/2/2011 65

A Blueprint for Future:1 : 

A Blueprint for Future:1 Work for unity and harmony Network through personal visits Help one another within the community Dump nostalgia about our royal connections 5/2/2011 66

A Blueprint for Future:2 : 

A Blueprint for Future:2 Pursue all occupations & render services to public Be sociable and Look confident Seek help when needed Join your community organization Participate in discussions with Zero Ego! 5/2/2011 67

A Blueprint for Future:3 : 

A Blueprint for Future:3 Give a strong family identity to our kids Stream your kids talent-wise! Visit your parents with your wife & kids Give community sense to your kids Be open in communication/discussion at home. Never bicker in front of your kids! 5/2/2011 68

Utilize Woman Power! : 

Utilize Woman Power! Woman Power-the Community Catalyst 60-65% housewives mere home makers Not productive enough. SHG’s to be formed and products sold. Woman Services : DTP, Insurance Agent, Xerox, Correspondence, Handicrafts etc. 5/2/2011 69

What a lot our women can do! : 

Bee Rearing Honey sale Tailoring at home Embroidery Fabric Painting Coaching for tests General Tuition Bindi Designing Bhajan Groups Baby sitting Home maker skills training. Exotic Dishes Shopping Consultant Jewelry making 5/2/2011 70 What a lot our women can do!

Enhancing family Income II : 

Fabric Printing Fitness Training Cookery Bridal Sari sale Fish Rearing Dog breeding Sequin work Food Delicacy Sale Anti Dowry Sessions Pre-School Gardening rare medicinal herbs* Facial Application Poultry Seri culture 5/2/2011 71 Enhancing family Income II

Rainbow Careers in Sports : 

Rainbow Careers in Sports Make health a top priority! Never live with a prejudice against sports or games Promote your kids’ zest for sports/games Take pains to promote their flair. Great opportunities/Big money prevail in sports and games too 5/2/2011 72

A Temple Deity’s Role : 

A Temple Deity’s Role Sanctity and cleanliness in the Home premises Promoter of Chastity in wedded women Infusion of Hindu faith in kids Socialization Enhancer Final Court of Appeal in litigations Family Unifier and Strengthener Catalyst for Networking 5/2/2011 73

Ekopana Samithi? : 

Ekopana Samithi? Formed for protecting family temples District wide representation Registered as a Charitable Trust Having own Bank account Objective: To ensure unity and integrity of Nair families, to retrieve lost landed property, to tone up family relationships and to ensure unity and strength within the family 5/2/2011 74

Samithi Architecture : 

Samithi Architecture Headed by President, VP, General Secretary, and Treasurer. Has Taluka-level Committees in Kalkulam, Vilavancode, Thovala and Agastheeswaram Talukas. No link at present with NSS in Kerala. Non-political & Service-minded Has Sub Committees for rendering key services. 5/2/2011 75

Ekopana Samithi:1 : 

Ekopana Samithi:1 Guidelines for Taluka Level Meetings Keep a register with all family addresses and contact numbers Include cell phone numbers also whenever possible, especially of men Ring up all members and inform them in advance the venue, time and date! 5/2/2011 76

Ekopana Samithi:2 : 

Ekopana Samithi:2 The gents can help make all arrangements for food and seating. Ladies need to arrive well in time for collecting Registration Fee. Prepare an agenda before every meeting. Follow the agenda till all items are over. Secretary clears all doubts during Zero Hour. 5/2/2011 77

Ekopana Samithi:3 : 

Ekopana Samithi:3 Maintain the pace of the discussion. The discussion over,let everyone get to know others actively. Exchange phone numbers and addresses. The Secretary collects the addresses/ contact numbers of new members. He/she sensitizes members personally about the need to remain united. 5/2/2011 78

Ekopana Samithi:4 : 

Ekopana Samithi:4 The Taluk Committee Secretary must visit the new members at their homes once in a month. Actively befriend the whole family please! Coax the gents in the family, if needed. Pay attention to upcoming kids too before departure. NEVER GIVE UP! 5/2/2011 79

Our Policy : 

Our Policy “All for One and One for All” Approach Passive Help for the less fortunate Nairs in Counseling/Legal advice/Career guidance/ Success tips etc. Collaborating with the NSS,KK District. To assist the NSS in shareable areas. 5/2/2011 80

Our Unity is our Strength : 

Our Unity is our Strength Forget and forgive petty spite Collaborate and Co-operate Prioritize Your Family Strength and Harmony Strong Community Sense a Must! Explore career choices! Seek assistance where needed! Never, never give up on life! 5/2/2011 81

"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the President. You realize that you control your own destiny."Albert Ellis, psychologist : 

5/2/2011 82 "The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the President. You realize that you control your own destiny."Albert Ellis, psychologist

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The Route to Unity & Strength! : 

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Go Forward! : 

5/2/2011 86 Go Forward! …. Unite at family level first and fast! Ensure unity inside home! Pray together with your kids in normal voice! Share food with them at same table! Discuss with them their issues too!

Learn to LIVE! : 

Learn to LIVE! Tragedy is what you make of itand you, darling, are no Ophelialost and floating in a lifeless pond.You are not without stories,But you ARE without reasonto call it in and use the worldaround you as your greatand inspired crutch. 5/2/2011 87

Lion Hearts by blood? : 

Lion Hearts by blood? Be Active! Keep fit through workouts! Never live like a pack of cats! Display your courage at all times! Infuse in your kids your family identity! Be role-models to your partners/kids! Promote Nair unity 24/7/365 through thought, speech and action! 5/2/2011 88

Our Forward Route : 

Our Forward Route No excuse for overdependence on destiny/Fate No caste prejudice Improve towards Family Harmony Striving for Community Change ‘Home is Heaven’ Conviction ‘Kids are the Future’ Mindset 5/2/2011 89

Our Self Confidence : 

Our Self Confidence 5/2/2011 90 We'll LIVE our life and the best it brings Till our twilight shadows fall;Our hearts grow brave, and the world, my dears, Is a good world after all!

THANK YOU ALL! : 

THANK YOU ALL! For your attention, questions and doubts For thinking along with me… For your decision to work for Nair community… For bringing your family into line.. For understanding role of your family temple ...and finally For going forward courageously…. 5/2/2011 91

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References: : 

References: The Census of India 2011: A GOI Publication Dalit Church in India? :Ninan.P.Koshy,Australia History of the Nairs in South India: Archives, Wikipedia The Hindu World view: Belur Math Late Adv.P.Parameswaran Nair, Thuckalay Bar. Decline of the Nayars: Oriental MS Library Betrayal of Faith: francispclm@yahoo.com eeemkurup@gmail.com 5/2/2011 93

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