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Post Reply Close By: ningmengcao (26 month(s) ago) Nice Saving..... Edit Comment Close Premium member Presentation Transcript Love and Emotions: Love and Emotions HPER F258 – Marriage and Family Interaction What is Love? Who Could You Love?: What is Love? Who Could You Love? In your small groups, List at least 10 ideal characteristics for a mate and 10 characteristics that would be 'deal breakers.' Answer these questions: How did you choose the qualities of your ideal? What influenced your choices and decisions? How does your ideal reflect your upbringing, including both family and cultural influences? In what ways do your parents contribute to your ideal image? How would you know when you have found your ideal partner? Emotions Are at the Heart of the Family's Ability to Influence Us : Emotions Are at the Heart of the Family's Ability to Influence Us Attachment and how it relates to our view of love (Bowlby): Attachment and how it relates to our view of love (Bowlby) Attachment theory 'an affectional tie with some other differentiated and preferred individual who is usually conceived as stronger and/or wiser' Individuals have a tendency to build strong emotional bonds to specific others If you have not formed a secure bond as a child, it affects your ability to form solid relationships later in life Non-rational bonds: Non-rational bonds Bonds that are based on a feeling or feelings, not logic- based The lack of rationality makes them powerful Remember that anything that is 'hidden' from rational/ intellectual processing can influence us without our knowing that it’s there Invisible loyalties(Boszormenyi-Nagy): Invisible loyalties (Boszormenyi-Nagy) Generational loyalties (not necessarily positive) Holding onto ideas of 'how things should be' because of family experiences Being unable to break patterns Not culturally based, but inherent to family relationships (accd. to B-N) Ethical loyalties – a 'family ledger' where everyone has obligations to the family – can be unhealthy Chronic Family Anxiety: Chronic Family Anxiety Family Ties and Love Relationships: Family Ties and Love Relationships Think back to the Epigenesis Principle and when we as individuals first begin to relate to the idea of loving preferring one person over another expectations for relationships Article facilitation (Tues.) – Relationships and Romantic Expectations: Article facilitation (Tues.) – Relationships and Romantic Expectations In your small group, discuss article #6, 'This Thing Called Love' Distance Regulation: Distance Regulation In families, a balance must be found between being too close and too distant Differentiation – to become separate and unique Not same as cut-off Undifferentiated = fusion Differentiation/Fusion Principle: Differentiation/Fusion Principle Families with higher levels of negativity, hostility, and animosity are more likely to have unhealthy levels of connectedness (fusion) in family life. This spirit of contention and control in families impairs children’s ability to develop a strong inner identity. They remain overly connected to their family of origin (enmeshed). So…: So… Emotionally healthy family environment allows for individuation of family members An emotionally unhealthy family environment results in family members who are emotionally fused…even if they appear disengaged. Balancing closeness and distance (process): Balancing closeness and distance (process) Families exist in perpetual confrontation between the quest for autonomy and jointness (Sprey) Efforts to balance autonomy vs. inclusion Balancing between connection and partition Distancing and pursuing: Distancing and pursuing Relational space Metaphoric, not concrete space Sense of closeness vs. distance in relationship Tied to comfort level with that level of closeness The Mating Game: The Mating Game Your discussion leader will give you the instructions – they’re complex) After you’ve played the game: What has this game taught you about your expectations, attitudes and standards? Final Thoughts on Lecture Material: Final Thoughts on Lecture Material Identify at least one important point in the class. Give this to your discussion leader. If anything was unclear, write that down, too. You do not have the permission to view this presentation. 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Edit Comment Close Premium member Presentation Transcript Love and Emotions: Love and Emotions HPER F258 – Marriage and Family Interaction What is Love? Who Could You Love?: What is Love? Who Could You Love? In your small groups, List at least 10 ideal characteristics for a mate and 10 characteristics that would be 'deal breakers.' Answer these questions: How did you choose the qualities of your ideal? What influenced your choices and decisions? How does your ideal reflect your upbringing, including both family and cultural influences? In what ways do your parents contribute to your ideal image? How would you know when you have found your ideal partner? Emotions Are at the Heart of the Family's Ability to Influence Us : Emotions Are at the Heart of the Family's Ability to Influence Us Attachment and how it relates to our view of love (Bowlby): Attachment and how it relates to our view of love (Bowlby) Attachment theory 'an affectional tie with some other differentiated and preferred individual who is usually conceived as stronger and/or wiser' Individuals have a tendency to build strong emotional bonds to specific others If you have not formed a secure bond as a child, it affects your ability to form solid relationships later in life Non-rational bonds: Non-rational bonds Bonds that are based on a feeling or feelings, not logic- based The lack of rationality makes them powerful Remember that anything that is 'hidden' from rational/ intellectual processing can influence us without our knowing that it’s there Invisible loyalties(Boszormenyi-Nagy): Invisible loyalties (Boszormenyi-Nagy) Generational loyalties (not necessarily positive) Holding onto ideas of 'how things should be' because of family experiences Being unable to break patterns Not culturally based, but inherent to family relationships (accd. to B-N) Ethical loyalties – a 'family ledger' where everyone has obligations to the family – can be unhealthy Chronic Family Anxiety: Chronic Family Anxiety Family Ties and Love Relationships: Family Ties and Love Relationships Think back to the Epigenesis Principle and when we as individuals first begin to relate to the idea of loving preferring one person over another expectations for relationships Article facilitation (Tues.) – Relationships and Romantic Expectations: Article facilitation (Tues.) – Relationships and Romantic Expectations In your small group, discuss article #6, 'This Thing Called Love' Distance Regulation: Distance Regulation In families, a balance must be found between being too close and too distant Differentiation – to become separate and unique Not same as cut-off Undifferentiated = fusion Differentiation/Fusion Principle: Differentiation/Fusion Principle Families with higher levels of negativity, hostility, and animosity are more likely to have unhealthy levels of connectedness (fusion) in family life. This spirit of contention and control in families impairs children’s ability to develop a strong inner identity. They remain overly connected to their family of origin (enmeshed). So…: So… Emotionally healthy family environment allows for individuation of family members An emotionally unhealthy family environment results in family members who are emotionally fused…even if they appear disengaged. Balancing closeness and distance (process): Balancing closeness and distance (process) Families exist in perpetual confrontation between the quest for autonomy and jointness (Sprey) Efforts to balance autonomy vs. inclusion Balancing between connection and partition Distancing and pursuing: Distancing and pursuing Relational space Metaphoric, not concrete space Sense of closeness vs. distance in relationship Tied to comfort level with that level of closeness The Mating Game: The Mating Game Your discussion leader will give you the instructions – they’re complex) After you’ve played the game: What has this game taught you about your expectations, attitudes and standards? Final Thoughts on Lecture Material: Final Thoughts on Lecture Material Identify at least one important point in the class. Give this to your discussion leader. If anything was unclear, write that down, too.