logging in or signing up Mentoring marriages New Wine 2006 UpBeat Download Post to : URL : Related Presentations : Share Add to Flag Embed Email Send to Blogs and Networks Add to Channel Uploaded from authorPOINT Insert YouTube videos in PowerPont slides with aS Desktop Copy embed code: (To copy code, click on the text box) Embed: URL: Thumbnail: WordPress Embed Customize Embed The presentation is successfully added In Your Favorites. Views: 252 Category: Education License: All Rights Reserved Like it (0) Dislike it (0) Added: June 17, 2007 This Presentation is Public Favorites: 0 Presentation Description No description available. Comments Posting comment... Premium member Presentation Transcript Mentoring Marriages : Mentoring Marriages Harry Benson Bristol Community Family Trust Mentoring marriages: Mentoring marriages Why support marriage? What support is out there? How can I make a difference? Mentoring marriages Why support marriage?: Why support marriage? Family breakdown Social consequences Marriage works Great marriage can be learnt Why support marriage Family breakdown and…: Family breakdown and… Crime Truancy Domestic violence Poverty Ill-health Mental health Child abuse Educational problems Emotional problems Relationship problems Substance abuse Why support marriage Pre-1980 trend - divorce: Pre-1980 trend - divorce Why support marriage Post 1980 trend- cohabitation : Post 1980 trend- cohabitation Why support marriage Children & family breakdown: Children andamp; family breakdown Why support marriage Despite media myths …: Despite media myths … Most marriages last for life Most marriages are happy Great marriage can be learnt Why support marriage What support is out there?: What support is out there? Pre-marriage – c.20,000 (1 in 13) Crisis – c.90,000 (1 in 160) Couples – c.10,000 (1 in 1400) Overall – c.120,000 (1 in 120) Mostly at the beginning or end What support is out there What does support mean to us?: What does support mean to us? 'Counselling' or 'Guidance' 'Stigma' 'Problems' 'Experts' What support is out there How can I make a difference?: How can I make a difference? How can I make a difference Programmes that work: Programmes that work Relationship skills courses Pre-marriage inventories (see paper at www.bcft.co.uk) 'What interventions strengthen family relationships' How can I make a difference Experience, not expertise: Experience, not expertise 'Clergy and lay leaders presenting (a relationship skills course) are providing as effective a service as university staff – at least with regard to pre-post changes in couple functioning' Stanley (2001) Community-Based Pre-Marital Prevention, Family Relations. How can I make a difference BCFT pre-marriage course: BCFT pre-marriage course How can I make a difference Typical mentoring evening: Typical mentoring evening Arrive 8pm 1 hour eat, drink andamp; chat 1 ½ hours inventory 1st evening – 1 subject Further evening – 2-3 subjects How can I make a difference BCFT skills course: BCFT skills course Bad Habits Good Habits Attitude How can I make a difference STOP signs: STOP signs S – Score Points T – Think the worst O – Opt out P – Put down How can I make a difference Love languages: Love languages Time Words Actions Gifts Touch How can I make a difference A tale of two Jennies: A tale of two Jennies Informal mentoring Mentoring in prison How can I make a difference Keys to mentoring …: Keys to mentoring … We are uncle andamp; aunt figures We do not have to be experts There are no difficult issues because they do the work We share andamp; point out patterns Mentoring marriages Great mentoring: Great mentoring Point out patterns Listening – eye contact STOP signs Love Languages How can I make a difference BCFT pre-marriage 2002-06: BCFT pre-marriage 2002-06 Mentors Couples Trained 69 265 Moved 13% 1% Withdrawn 14% 31% Active 72% 68% Mentoring marriages BV pre-marriage 2000-06: BV pre-marriage 2000-06 46 couples 11 mentor couples 3 did not marry 0 divorces (4 statistically) Mentoring marriages Resources: Resources Mentoring marriages – Chapter 2 www.bcft.co.uk – Tips and Help Mentoring marriages Dedication: Dedication Divorce rates - per year: Divorce rates - per year Why support marriage Divorce rates - cumulative : Divorce rates - cumulative Why support marriage You do not have the permission to view this presentation. In order to view it, please contact the author of the presentation.
Mentoring marriages New Wine 2006 UpBeat Download Post to : URL : Related Presentations : Share Add to Flag Embed Email Send to Blogs and Networks Add to Channel Uploaded from authorPOINT Insert YouTube videos in PowerPont slides with aS Desktop Copy embed code: (To copy code, click on the text box) Embed: URL: Thumbnail: WordPress Embed Customize Embed The presentation is successfully added In Your Favorites. Views: 252 Category: Education License: All Rights Reserved Like it (0) Dislike it (0) Added: June 17, 2007 This Presentation is Public Favorites: 0 Presentation Description No description available. Comments Posting comment... Premium member Presentation Transcript Mentoring Marriages : Mentoring Marriages Harry Benson Bristol Community Family Trust Mentoring marriages: Mentoring marriages Why support marriage? What support is out there? How can I make a difference? Mentoring marriages Why support marriage?: Why support marriage? Family breakdown Social consequences Marriage works Great marriage can be learnt Why support marriage Family breakdown and…: Family breakdown and… Crime Truancy Domestic violence Poverty Ill-health Mental health Child abuse Educational problems Emotional problems Relationship problems Substance abuse Why support marriage Pre-1980 trend - divorce: Pre-1980 trend - divorce Why support marriage Post 1980 trend- cohabitation : Post 1980 trend- cohabitation Why support marriage Children & family breakdown: Children andamp; family breakdown Why support marriage Despite media myths …: Despite media myths … Most marriages last for life Most marriages are happy Great marriage can be learnt Why support marriage What support is out there?: What support is out there? Pre-marriage – c.20,000 (1 in 13) Crisis – c.90,000 (1 in 160) Couples – c.10,000 (1 in 1400) Overall – c.120,000 (1 in 120) Mostly at the beginning or end What support is out there What does support mean to us?: What does support mean to us? 'Counselling' or 'Guidance' 'Stigma' 'Problems' 'Experts' What support is out there How can I make a difference?: How can I make a difference? How can I make a difference Programmes that work: Programmes that work Relationship skills courses Pre-marriage inventories (see paper at www.bcft.co.uk) 'What interventions strengthen family relationships' How can I make a difference Experience, not expertise: Experience, not expertise 'Clergy and lay leaders presenting (a relationship skills course) are providing as effective a service as university staff – at least with regard to pre-post changes in couple functioning' Stanley (2001) Community-Based Pre-Marital Prevention, Family Relations. How can I make a difference BCFT pre-marriage course: BCFT pre-marriage course How can I make a difference Typical mentoring evening: Typical mentoring evening Arrive 8pm 1 hour eat, drink andamp; chat 1 ½ hours inventory 1st evening – 1 subject Further evening – 2-3 subjects How can I make a difference BCFT skills course: BCFT skills course Bad Habits Good Habits Attitude How can I make a difference STOP signs: STOP signs S – Score Points T – Think the worst O – Opt out P – Put down How can I make a difference Love languages: Love languages Time Words Actions Gifts Touch How can I make a difference A tale of two Jennies: A tale of two Jennies Informal mentoring Mentoring in prison How can I make a difference Keys to mentoring …: Keys to mentoring … We are uncle andamp; aunt figures We do not have to be experts There are no difficult issues because they do the work We share andamp; point out patterns Mentoring marriages Great mentoring: Great mentoring Point out patterns Listening – eye contact STOP signs Love Languages How can I make a difference BCFT pre-marriage 2002-06: BCFT pre-marriage 2002-06 Mentors Couples Trained 69 265 Moved 13% 1% Withdrawn 14% 31% Active 72% 68% Mentoring marriages BV pre-marriage 2000-06: BV pre-marriage 2000-06 46 couples 11 mentor couples 3 did not marry 0 divorces (4 statistically) Mentoring marriages Resources: Resources Mentoring marriages – Chapter 2 www.bcft.co.uk – Tips and Help Mentoring marriages Dedication: Dedication Divorce rates - per year: Divorce rates - per year Why support marriage Divorce rates - cumulative : Divorce rates - cumulative Why support marriage