logging in or signing up Sexual Addiction Lecture Roxie Download Post to : URL : Related Presentations : Share Add to Flag Embed Email Send to Blogs and Networks Add to Channel Uploaded from authorPOINT Insert YouTube videos in PowerPont slides with aS Desktop Copy embed code: (To copy code, click on the text box) Embed: URL: Thumbnail: WordPress Embed Customize Embed The presentation is successfully added In Your Favorites. Views: 1678 Category: News & Reports.. License: All Rights Reserved Like it (2) Dislike it (0) Added: August 11, 2007 This Presentation is Public Favorites: 0 Presentation Description No description available. Comments Posting comment... Premium member Presentation Transcript An Addiction Specialist Looks At Sexual Addiction: An Addiction Specialist Looks At Sexual Addiction Ken Roy, MD River Oaks Hospital Tulane Department of Psychiatry Addiction Recovery Resources of New Orleans 504-780-2766 www.arrno.org Sex: Sex Why should we talk about sex? Because we don’t Sex is dirty, full of shame, secret If there is a secret you want to carry to your grave, it’ll get you drunk/loaded We don’t want you to relapse The single most frequent cofactor in relapse has something to do with sex Normal Behavior: Normal Behavior Does anyone know anyone who doesn’t have sex? Therefore having sex is normal behavior What would happen if no one had sex? Therefore having sex is necessary behavior Can you become addicted to behavior that is both normal and necessary? Addiction to Normal Behaviors: Addiction to Normal Behaviors If a behavior has a negative effect on one or more of the seven major areas of life - and we don’t stop doing it Just like: Compulsion Loss of control Continued use in the face of negative consequences Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual Levels of Sexual Addiction: Levels of Sexual Addiction Level One Addictive behavior that involves normal sexual activity Level Two Involves nuisance kinds of criminal sexual activity Level Three Horrific kinds of criminal sexual activity Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual How Many of Us Are Involved?: How Many of Us Are Involved? Level One 90% at some time in our using careers Level Two Unknown – 12% - 25% as victims Level Three Unknown – 60% of females andamp; 40% of males are victims Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual Learned vs. Genetic Addictions: Learned vs. Genetic Addictions Genetic addictions Alcoholism Drug addictions Learned addictions Sex, work, exercise, food, gambling, internet People addiction, or Co Dependency Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual How Would You Learn?: How Would You Learn? Family dysfunction - distorted Core Beliefs I am a bad, unworthy person Trauma -andgt; Abuse = Shame No one would love me as I am Absence of Unconditional Love My needs would never be met if I had to depend on others Sense of abandonment and absence of nurturing Sex (Love) is my most important need Inappropriate Sexual Messages (Sexual Trauma) Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual How Would You Act?: How Would You Act? Distorted core beliefs I am a bad, unworthy person Trauma -andgt; Abuse = Shame No one would love me as I am Absence of Unconditional Love My needs would never be met if I had to depend on others Sense of abandonment and absence of nurturing Sex (Love) is my most important need Inappropriate Sexual Messages (Sexual Trauma) Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? How It starts: How It starts Distorted core beliefs I am a bad, unworthy person Trauma -andgt; Abuse = Shame No one would love me as I am Absence of Unconditional Love My needs would never be met if I had to depend on others Sense of abandonment and absence of nurturing Sex (Love) is my most important need Inappropriate Sexual Messages (Sexual Trauma) Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? Developing a Cycle: Developing a Cycle Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? Why About Me?: Why About Me? My own story Multiple relationships Recovery 'Coincidences' After ninth step Promises No longer regret the past, or wish to shut the door on it How it Goes: How it Goes Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? Other Levels: Other Levels Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? How it Ends: How it Ends If You Identify: If You Identify Specific 12-Step meetings SAA, SLAA Primary 12-Step meeting 1st fourth and fifth step About drinking and drugging 2nd fourth and fifth step About relationships One way or the other – Deal With It! Sexually Addicted Relationship: Sexually Addicted Relationship If the measure of the success of the relationship is the value of the sex in the relationship If the reward for 'good' behavior is sex If the punishment for 'bad' behavior is withholding sex If the focus of the relationship is on sex Sexual Co Dependency: Sexual Co Dependency Focus and self worth dependent on the behavior of another – in this case, sex Co Dependent will often: Invade the person, belongings and schedule of the sex addict Behave flirtatiously, dress flirtatiously or even have sex with others to control the behavior of the addict Focus on another to the neglect of self Love is Not a Feeling: Love is Not a Feeling True adult love is a decision To take an interest in and make a commitment to the spiritual and emotional well being of another The types of love Filial = what we feel for relatives Eros = I want to make a baby with you Agape = true adult love Success in love (relationship) depends on expectations of love in a relationship What is Life All About?: What is Life All About? Not about winning Probably about some of the things that we don’t learn well if we grow up in dysfunction Intimacy Unconditional love The ability to nurture and be nurtured A relationship with a power greater than ourselves If This Touched a “bad” Place: If This Touched a 'bad' Place Listen to your feelings They’re important Access your support system Use your staff Get ready to begin healing The road to recovery is directly through pain You do not have the permission to view this presentation. In order to view it, please contact the author of the presentation.
Sexual Addiction Lecture Roxie Download Post to : URL : Related Presentations : Share Add to Flag Embed Email Send to Blogs and Networks Add to Channel Uploaded from authorPOINT Insert YouTube videos in PowerPont slides with aS Desktop Copy embed code: (To copy code, click on the text box) Embed: URL: Thumbnail: WordPress Embed Customize Embed The presentation is successfully added In Your Favorites. Views: 1678 Category: News & Reports.. License: All Rights Reserved Like it (2) Dislike it (0) Added: August 11, 2007 This Presentation is Public Favorites: 0 Presentation Description No description available. Comments Posting comment... Premium member Presentation Transcript An Addiction Specialist Looks At Sexual Addiction: An Addiction Specialist Looks At Sexual Addiction Ken Roy, MD River Oaks Hospital Tulane Department of Psychiatry Addiction Recovery Resources of New Orleans 504-780-2766 www.arrno.org Sex: Sex Why should we talk about sex? Because we don’t Sex is dirty, full of shame, secret If there is a secret you want to carry to your grave, it’ll get you drunk/loaded We don’t want you to relapse The single most frequent cofactor in relapse has something to do with sex Normal Behavior: Normal Behavior Does anyone know anyone who doesn’t have sex? Therefore having sex is normal behavior What would happen if no one had sex? Therefore having sex is necessary behavior Can you become addicted to behavior that is both normal and necessary? Addiction to Normal Behaviors: Addiction to Normal Behaviors If a behavior has a negative effect on one or more of the seven major areas of life - and we don’t stop doing it Just like: Compulsion Loss of control Continued use in the face of negative consequences Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual Levels of Sexual Addiction: Levels of Sexual Addiction Level One Addictive behavior that involves normal sexual activity Level Two Involves nuisance kinds of criminal sexual activity Level Three Horrific kinds of criminal sexual activity Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual How Many of Us Are Involved?: How Many of Us Are Involved? Level One 90% at some time in our using careers Level Two Unknown – 12% - 25% as victims Level Three Unknown – 60% of females andamp; 40% of males are victims Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual Learned vs. Genetic Addictions: Learned vs. Genetic Addictions Genetic addictions Alcoholism Drug addictions Learned addictions Sex, work, exercise, food, gambling, internet People addiction, or Co Dependency Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual How Would You Learn?: How Would You Learn? Family dysfunction - distorted Core Beliefs I am a bad, unworthy person Trauma -andgt; Abuse = Shame No one would love me as I am Absence of Unconditional Love My needs would never be met if I had to depend on others Sense of abandonment and absence of nurturing Sex (Love) is my most important need Inappropriate Sexual Messages (Sexual Trauma) Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual How Would You Act?: How Would You Act? Distorted core beliefs I am a bad, unworthy person Trauma -andgt; Abuse = Shame No one would love me as I am Absence of Unconditional Love My needs would never be met if I had to depend on others Sense of abandonment and absence of nurturing Sex (Love) is my most important need Inappropriate Sexual Messages (Sexual Trauma) Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? How It starts: How It starts Distorted core beliefs I am a bad, unworthy person Trauma -andgt; Abuse = Shame No one would love me as I am Absence of Unconditional Love My needs would never be met if I had to depend on others Sense of abandonment and absence of nurturing Sex (Love) is my most important need Inappropriate Sexual Messages (Sexual Trauma) Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? Developing a Cycle: Developing a Cycle Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? Why About Me?: Why About Me? My own story Multiple relationships Recovery 'Coincidences' After ninth step Promises No longer regret the past, or wish to shut the door on it How it Goes: How it Goes Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? Other Levels: Other Levels Family Spouse Job ($) Medical Legal Social Spiritual OK In charge No needs Act? How it Ends: How it Ends If You Identify: If You Identify Specific 12-Step meetings SAA, SLAA Primary 12-Step meeting 1st fourth and fifth step About drinking and drugging 2nd fourth and fifth step About relationships One way or the other – Deal With It! Sexually Addicted Relationship: Sexually Addicted Relationship If the measure of the success of the relationship is the value of the sex in the relationship If the reward for 'good' behavior is sex If the punishment for 'bad' behavior is withholding sex If the focus of the relationship is on sex Sexual Co Dependency: Sexual Co Dependency Focus and self worth dependent on the behavior of another – in this case, sex Co Dependent will often: Invade the person, belongings and schedule of the sex addict Behave flirtatiously, dress flirtatiously or even have sex with others to control the behavior of the addict Focus on another to the neglect of self Love is Not a Feeling: Love is Not a Feeling True adult love is a decision To take an interest in and make a commitment to the spiritual and emotional well being of another The types of love Filial = what we feel for relatives Eros = I want to make a baby with you Agape = true adult love Success in love (relationship) depends on expectations of love in a relationship What is Life All About?: What is Life All About? Not about winning Probably about some of the things that we don’t learn well if we grow up in dysfunction Intimacy Unconditional love The ability to nurture and be nurtured A relationship with a power greater than ourselves If This Touched a “bad” Place: If This Touched a 'bad' Place Listen to your feelings They’re important Access your support system Use your staff Get ready to begin healing The road to recovery is directly through pain