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Attraction and Close Relationships Chapter 10: Attraction and Close Relationships Chapter 10
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Major Question about Relationships: Major Question about Relationships
Where does love go? Why do happy couples become unhappy couples?
What is a successful intimate relationship?: What is a successful intimate relationship? Two components of a successful relationship
Stability: the relationship does not end in breakup
Satisfaction: the relationship fulfills the need of both partners
Are relationships stable?: Are relationships stable? Problems with studying dating relationships
Statistics on the stability of marital relationships
When do marriages end?
Consequences of instability
Building a Model of Relationship Change: Building a Model of Relationship Change Initial
Satisfaction Marital
Dissolution ?
Where does love go? Where did it come from?: Where does love go? Where did it come from? Attraction: what attracts you to someone else?
Physical attractiveness
Computer dating study
Attractiveness #1 predictor of desire for second date!
Just how attractive do we want our partner to be?: Just how attractive do we want our partner to be? Dating service study
Matching hypothesis
People are attracted to those of equal physical attractiveness
However, if no fear of rejection, we prefer the most attractive person available
Why is physical attractiveness so important?: Why is physical attractiveness so important? Halo effect (What is beautiful is good)
Knowing about one quality makes you assume that you know a lot about other qualities
Attractive school children study
Attractiveness of defendants
How Can You Look Attractive? : How Can You Look Attractive? Attractiveness can depend on context
Assimilation and contrast effects
Couples photograph study
Rate man standing next to attractive woman
½ told unrelated; ½ told he was boyfriend
Same sex friend study
Friends – assimilation; strangers - contrast
The Effect of Personality on Attraction: The Effect of Personality on Attraction We like those with positive attributes
So, do we like the most perfect people?
Pratfall effect - we like people who are almost perfect but have some faults
Other Factors that Affect Attraction: Other Factors that Affect Attraction Familiarity
mere exposure effect (Zajonc): We tend to rate novel stimuli better after we have been repeatedly exposed to it.
Other Factors that Affect Attraction: Other Factors that Affect Attraction Reciprocity - We like those who like us
But do we like those who immediately like us?
Condition 1: they like you from the start
Condition 2: they never like you
Condition 3: they like you, then don’t
Condition 4: they don’t like you, then do
We like those who we must win over!
What do all of these factors have in common?: What do all of these factors have in common? Rewards and costs!
So where does this get us?
Attraction is not the answer - The forces that draw us together are not the ones that eventually pull us apart!