Raising Kids

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God: 

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God Psalm 103 “But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord's love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children's children.”

The Most Powerful Message - Example : 

The Most Powerful Message - Example God is love – we are made in His image. The Father's example: "This is My Beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.” Basics: Attention, Affection, Approval

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God: 

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God Attention “Attend” – Physiological needs, physical and emotional - Spiritual attending! (atmosphere - food, warmth, safe – basic health.) Eye Contact – “Face to Face” Dr. Joy “Bonding” Finding your child’s “bent” Dr. Chuck Swindhol Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way they should go…” Take time to observe them. Individual language – what makes them tick?

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God: 

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God Approval Every child longs and needs to hear "I'm proud of you." Every child longs and needs to hear their father (and mom) say approving words. Beautiful – Unique – Special Every child needs to hear "I'm so glad God gave you to me!“ Talk them up! When people are present. (good in all relationships…)

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God: 

Raising Kids Who Love and Honor God Affection 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman Physical touch Words of affirmation Gifts Acts of service Focused attention

Five Basics LanguagesGary Chapman: 

Five Basics Languages Gary Chapman Affirmation – You are special you are loved. “People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it." And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them.” Mark 10:13-16

Five Basics LanguagesGary Chapman: 

Five Basics Languages Gary Chapman Hugs, Kisses, Cuddles, Wrestling. Avoid smothering. Authentic, sincere. Start small… Pat on the back Cup the face- “You’re special” - “Jesus knows” Age – respect their space (kids watching kids) Hugs – greetings, etc. Awkward years - Press in… Hugs, pats on the back, gentle touch to the face. Loving, respectful touch – bonding happens

Five Basics LanguagesGary Chapman: 

Five Basics Languages Gary Chapman Words - Building or Destructive Prov.12:18 “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Prov.16:24 “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Prov.18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Ephesians 4:29,30 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Kids will model what they hear – what is modeled. TV!!

Five Love Languages Gary Chapman: 

Five Love Languages Gary Chapman Bestows Blessing Balance Timely “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” Luke 11:11-13 Teach gift giving.

Five Love Languages Gary Chapman: 

Five Love Languages Gary Chapman Example – best lesson Serving them – Activating the Fruit of the Spirit -Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Serving your family – you teach service. Serving the Lord – faithfulness. Require service as part of molding. Elderly, church clean up day, neighbors, etc.

Five Love Languages Gary Chapman: 

Five Love Languages Gary Chapman Eye Contact (young and older) Listening TIME Time Interest Memory Eternal value

The Most Powerful Message - Example : 

The Most Powerful Message - Example God is love – we are made in His image. The Father's example: "This is My Beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.” Basics: Attention, Affection, Approval