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ANGER! ANGER! ANGER! : MAJOR MARITAL KILLER Did you know that all marriages have the potential of ending? The main reason is how anger in marriage is handled. Anger is a power and is the major marital killer. Thursday, June 18, 2015 1

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As I look around and see so many couples breaking up and divorcing the question comes , why? Those who were so madly in love have now decided to call it quits. Why? I know there is no perfect marriage because you and I are a part of it. I also know of some marriages that had grounds to break up but for some reason they managed to stay together and seemed to be doing alright. Thursday, June 18, 2015 2

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What is the element that can destroy and kill our marital relationship? I believe the major marital killer is unresolved anger. I want to show you why this is so and what improper anger can do to destroy your marriage. Thursday, June 18, 2015 3

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Last week in one of our estates in Nairobi, a woman was murdered by her husband. No matter the reason, the man was infiltrated with anger. About three weeks ago, a man in one of our towns, was cut off his genitals. The wife was infiltrated with anger. Anger! Anger! Anger! Anger! Anger! We must understand the power of anger and particularly in marriage. Thursday, June 18, 2015 4

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C onfession and forgiveness is God’s remedies for anger . When we learn this very important lesson then we can avoid walking in darkness and instead walk in the light of God’s love, joy, and peace . Unresolved anger in you relationship, will most likely destroy your marriage. Thursday, June 18, 2015 5

I. A Christian Perspective On Anger :

I. A Christian Perspective On Anger A. Be Angry, But Do Not Sin. Ephesians 4:26-27 "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. (NIV) B . Anger is a common, daily emotion that if not brought under control will build up like plaque that cannot be buried or forgotten. Thursday, June 18, 2015 6

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It is not sinful to get angry if it is the right kind of anger. The wrong kind of anger will block love from growing in our marriages. Thursday, June 18, 2015 7

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What is anger: 1 . Anger is the combination of fear, worry, frustration, and hurt feelings. 2 . Anger becomes sinful when we hang on to it or nurse it and if we act in a way that is vengeful to the person toward whom we are angry. We should never try to bury anger because it will grow. Thursday, June 18, 2015 8

II. Anger Can Destroy Your Marriage :

II. Anger Can Destroy Your Marriage A. There are four progressive steps one can take that will begin weakening your marriage because of anger. 1 . You withdraw from your spouse. 2 . You escalate your problems and disputes. 3 . You belittle your spouse. 4 . You allow negative feelings to poison you against your spouse. Feelings become real !! Thursday, June 18, 2015 9

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B. There are four major effects that unresolved anger will have in your life and your marriage . 1 . You will experience spiritual darkness. When a person allows anger to linger in their life it will begin to extinguish the light of God. Thursday, June 18, 2015 10

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Anger will cause a person to walk in darkness. I John 2:9-11 Staying angry heads to sin. The results in a person being opened to greater temptation for the things of this world such as: a. Sexual temptation b. Chemical addiction c. No desire for spiritual things. d. No vision for God. Thursday, June 18, 2015 11

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2. You will have emotional reaction. Your anger can grow into hatred, rage, and bitterness . Don’t let this attitude become a part of your life. If anger becomes a part of your life learn to make a choice to ask for forgiveness . Learn to forgive. Thursday, June 18, 2015 12

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3. You may have physical failure . Anger increases our chances of getting diseases and of having heart attacks. Males who harbor anger are six times more likely to have a heart attack. Anger lowers the immune system so that some sickness can come to us because we could not unload anger. Thursday, June 18, 2015 13

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4. You may have relational breakups. Not all marriages will break up but some are not enjoying the journey. Anger held in our hearts can make intimacy with our companions threatening. The results may well be for us to want to be at a distance from them. Thursday, June 18, 2015 14

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When we possess anger then our leadership influence will be damaged. When you are angry at someone you begin to lose sensitivity towards their needs. Thursday, June 18, 2015 15

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C. Anger is at the root of many of our present day divorces. 1 . Anger is the terrible inheritance that is passed down from generation to generation . 2. May we clearly understand that when our children are angry with us then they will not buy into our values. We must check our hearts for any unconfessed anger. Thursday, June 18, 2015 16

III. Proper Steps to Keep Anger in its Proper Place. :

III. Proper Steps to Keep Anger in its Proper Place. A. You must keep close to God. How? 1 . Prayer 2 . Study of Scripture 3 . Obedience to God Listen , these are not just simple solutions to help with the problems. These are profound and absolute solutions. Thursday, June 18, 2015 17

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B. You must be able to determine when action is necessary . You probably cannot do this if you are not close to God. 1 . This action is necessary when you or your spouse have a closed spirit to each other . 2 . It is necessary when you are not talking or connecting to each other. Thursday, June 18, 2015 18

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3. It is necessary when your marital peace has been disturbed and you feel it is unsafe to share your feelings or to express your needs to each other. 4. When you have offended your spouse, make a choice to repair the damage. Thursday, June 18, 2015 19

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C. You must take certain steps when you have hurt others. 1 . Confess in a spirit of humility the wrong done and seek forgiveness. This will help open your spouse’s spirit. 2 . Responding with a gentle spirit will help turn away your partner’s anger. This will help you show your spouse how they value their needs. Thursday, June 18, 2015 20

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3. Be willing to take all the responsibility that is yours and do not point out the faults of your spouse. If you think your companion is 80% responsible for the conflict then you are 100% responsible for your 20% of the conflict . Be quick to apologize. Thursday, June 18, 2015 21

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D. You must know what to do when others have hurt you. 1 . Forgive them and release them to the Lord. Romans 12:14, “Bless those that persecute you; bless and do not curse.” When you release them to the Lord, you are also being released from the corrosive effects of anger and bitterness that could poison your life . Thursday, June 18, 2015 22

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2. Act quickly to repair the relationship so Satan will not have an opportunity to work. 3. Refuse to hold onto anger. When you keep holding on to the anger and refuse to forgive, it is going to completely kill the marriage. Thursday, June 18, 2015 23

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4 . Call upon the Lord in the day of trouble. Psalm 50:15, “Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you and you shall glorify me.” Thursday, June 18, 2015 24

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FINALLY You have been trying to cope and overcome but your spouse has caused you much anger, or at least that is who you blame it on. Well, there is hope. Call upon the name of the Lord!!! Take time to begin to search your heart for anger. Spend some time with your spouse in prayer . Thursday, June 18, 2015 25

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Don’t be a part of the statistics of those that destroyed their marriages because of anger. You can overcome these situations. Appreciate your spouse. This is the best gift you have in your life. In my mother tongue there is a saying: ‘ What you couldn’t get in your home is what you came for in your spouse’s life.’ Thursday, June 18, 2015 26

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