Is Your: Is Your Relationship: Relationship Good For: Good For You?: You? The Components of a Healthy Relationship: The Components of a Healthy Relationship 1 Intimacy Intimacy is the capacity to be emotionally close while also maintaining individual identities. Too often, people confuse sex with intimacy. Emotional intimacy is an infinitely more significant element of a healthy relationship. Slide6: 2 4 3 R-E-S-P-E-C-T Respect involves the ability to recognize and respond fairly to each other’s feelings and needs. Adaptability andamp; Flexibility Adaptability and flexibility refer to the ability to weather changes and roll with the punches in a relationship. COMMUNICATION!!! Communication is defined as the art and technique of effectively imparting one’s ideas. Communication is an essential component of a healthy relationship, yet we don’t always say what we really mean to our partner. Why not? Slide7: 5 6 7 Self-esteem Before you can feel good in a relationship, you must feel good about yourself. Accept yourself as you are, have a positive attitude, feel good about the decisions you make, and don’t try to change yourself for someone else. Honesty Being candid about thoughts, feelings, and the desired direction of the relationship will allow both you and your partner the opportunity to simultaneously explore yourselves and the relationship. Trust Over time, trusting your partner will be necessary for a healthy relationship, but in the beginning trust is not automatic--it has to be earned. Always trust yourself to be who you are and to look out for your well-being. It is important to remember that trust is hard to earn but easy to destroy. Slide8:
Don’t forget about yourself and your needs in the process
of becoming involved in a relationship. A relationship
should enhance who you already are, not replace it.
Ask yourself the following questions:
What type of relationship am I looking for? (friendship, long term relationship, love, casual relationship)
How do my personal beliefs relate to what I desire in a relationship?
What activities am I now involved in that I might want to continue doing alone?
Slide9: You Should NOT Answer Yes
to These Relationship Questions
3. Is this person jealous of your friends or relatives?
4. Does your partner ridicule you or put you down?
5. Does you partner expect to be told where you are when you are not with him or her? 1. When angry, does your partner throw or break things? 2. Does your partner lose his or her temper easily? Slide10: You SHOULD Answer Yes
to These Relationship Questions 1. Is your partner glad that you have friends of both genders? 2. Does your partner give consideration to your opinions? 3. Does your partner both talk and listen?
4. Does your partner have interests besides you?
5. Does your partner respect your right to make decisions about your own life? Things to Think About When Sex Is Involved: Things to Think About When Sex Is Involved Consider your personal beliefs about sexual relationships before becoming involved in one. Be sure that the choices you make are the right ones for you.
You can have a romantic relationship without having sexual intercourse; don't force it if you or your partner aren't ready.
Sex should be something that you can discuss. It is best to communicate to your partner clearly and directly about sex.
If you choose to be sexually active, be sure to protect yourself from contracting STIs.
Understand consent. Consent must be verbal even in the context of a relationship. Consent cannot be given while under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Slide12: Postponing Sex Postponing sex means making an active choice not to have sex. It does not mean that the person has never had sex before, nor does it mean that the person will never have sex again. It simply means that the person is choosing not to have sex in their current relationship. Slide13: The Truth About STIs Slide14: Don’t Become an STI Statistic! Protect Yourself with Knowledge. 2/3 of all STIs occur in people
25 years of age or younger. STIs know no age, race, gender,
social class, education level,
or sexual orientation. By the age of 24, 1 in 3 people
will have contracted an STI. HPV (genital warts) is the most
common STI in the United States.
More than 5 million people are
infected with HPV each year. 50% of all new HIV infections in the USA
occur in 18-25 year olds.
Smokers with the HIV virus develop
full-blown AIDS twice as quickly
as non-smokers. 75% of women and 50% of men with
Chlamydia have no symptoms.
Many people are unaware that
they have an STI.
Therefore, these statistics
are underestimates! Bacterial STIs: Bacterial STIs Syphilis Gonorrhea Chlamydia The bad news: Bacterial STIs can cause unpleasant symptoms and may be life-threatening if they go untreated.
The good news: Bacterial STIs can be treated and cured with antibiotics if detected early. Viral STIs: Viral STIs Herpes Genital Warts HIV The bad news: There is no cure for viral STIs and these STIs may be transmitted even when individuals are asymptomatic.
The good news: Anti-viral medications may help alleviate symptoms. Hepatitis Slide17: Parasitic STIs Crabs Scabies Trichomoniasis The bad news: Parasitic STIs can cause unpleasant symptoms and may reoccur after treatment if all clothing, bedding and towels aren’t thoroughly washed.
The good news: Parasitic STIs can be treated and cured with topical creams and lotions. Slide18: Having a sexually transmitted infection increases your risk for HIV infection. Sexually transmitted infections that cause breaks in the skin (such as Herpes or Syphilis) make it easier for HIV to enter the body. Even diseases such as Gonorrhea or Chlamydia that do not cause breaks in the skin can cause an immune response that makes the body more vulnerable to contracting HIV. Slide19: One of the most common symptoms of an STI is no symptom at all! Be Sure. Get Tested. Slide20: Though many people who are infected with STIs show no obvious signs, there are some general symptoms that should raise your suspicions:
Genital sores, itching, pain, unusual discharge, pain or burning during urination, unusual bleeding and painful sexual intercourse should be investigated as soon as they are noticed.
It is important to remember that regardless of whether you have symptoms, if you are infected with a STI, you can infect your partner through sexual contact. Signs andamp; Symptoms Slide21: What’s the Cost? Chlamydia- $25
Syphilis- $6 The Student Health Center also offers free and anonymous HIV testing from an outside agency twice a semester, and payment plans for STI testing that allow the student to keep the testing and treatment confidential. The Villanova Student Health Center
offers low cost STI testing.
Slide22: You Can NOT give consent to have sex while under the influence of alcohol or other drugs. Boundaries Looking Fuzzy? Alcohol is involved in the transmission of 60% of all STIs. Clear them up! Slide23: Know Yourself and Know Your Limits Make Sure That Your Relationship Is Good For YOU!