What You Can Do to Keep the Family Holidays Happy During Divorce

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What You Can Do to Keep the Family Holidays Happy During Divorce walllegalsolutions.com /what-you-can-do-to-keep-the-family-holidays-happy-during-divorce/ By Wall Legal Solutions The holidays present some of life’s most meaningful occasions for celebrating and for creating lifelong memories for you and your children to share. The first several holidays with your children as a single parent are especially important for establishing a sense of normalcy after divorce and a sense that holidays are still a time to enjoy being together. Below we have provided a basic holiday checklist for divorced parents to help you and your kids enjoy a smooth and happy season of fun family times. Make Clear Arrangements with Your Ex. Confusion miscommunications and messy transfers of children back and forth between homes are incidents that can frustrate your efforts to sustain a celebratory atmosphere for your family during the holidays. Just a little preparation can help you and your ex set up a clear plan for specific times locations and other details involved in transferring your children between the two homes throughout the holidays. If you think it can help you and your ex to stay on the same page make two copies of the details of the arrangements send one to your ex and keep one for yourself. In the plan include a list of clothes coats gloves hats scarves sleepwear grooming items medications and other important items that the children should bring with them. Be sure to include a favorite comfort item such as a favorite blanket or toy to help your children cope with holiday stresses caused by changing routines adjusting expectations transferring between homes and by the stresses adults are experiencing and may not be aware are affecting children’s stress 1/4

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levels. Make sure that all adults involved fully agree to the holiday plan. Try to settle on the arrangements a couple of months or more before the holidays. If possible make contingency plans with your ex. Make sure that there is full agreement on plans for alternative actions in case of date changes because of weather lateness due to car trouble traffic jams or any other common holiday logistics problems. All special requirements or personal preferences that are important to you or your ex-wife/ex- husband regarding your children’s care should be addressed. Doing so in advance helps maintain consistency in kids’ routines in both homes and helps prevent conflicts between parents. Reduce Stress for All Adults Involved. Being careful to minimize stress for all other adults involved comes with the bonus of reducing your own stress in your necessary collaboration with them to manage the holidays well for your children. Alleviating the pressure of scheduling bottlenecks is one option. After all the calendar dates on which you celebrate the holidays with your kids doesn’t matter to children. So consider having your holiday time with them during the week before or after the official holiday dates if you think doing so could cut out some stressors such as making transfers or having children away for adults during the hectic period. And you may find that such an arrangement allows you less stressful more quality time with your kids. Make a Thorough To Do List. Make a list of necessary home preparations for your kid’s stay. And if possible complete everything you need to do before the busy holiday shopping traffic season begins. Carefully inspect your house inside and outside. Install child-safety features and implement safety practices as needed. Buy some of your kids’ favorite foods for meals and snacks. These can be very very helpful in helping maintain everyone’s happiness. Start early on your T o Do list. Do some of your shopping for holiday décor and gifts a little here and there well before the holiday season. Finish all holiday preparations and shopping if possible prior to your children’s arrival . But of course wait to do any particular shopping that you want to do with your kids maybe as a new fun seasonal family activity. Make Holiday Plans with Your Kids. T ell your kids about the spaces you are going to set up for them to sleep and other accommodations you’re planning for them in your new home. Of course although you want your kids to be excited about the holidays and to look forward to having fun with you it’s important to realistically manage children’s expectations in order to let them have some surprises and to avert potential disappointments. Talk to your children about their concerns. Ask them about any issues they may be experiencing during the transition. Discuss and help resolve those for your kids to the extent possible before their holiday stay with you. 2/4

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Make as few new house rules as possible. And keep those as simple as possible. Discuss rules with your kids prior to the holidays or at the earliest good opportunity after they arrive. Create Some New Family Traditions. Adopt a few new holiday ideas to include in your annual celebrations with your children. Add a new special holiday dessert or snack that you and your kids can eat and/or make together. Find a new board game or outdoor activity that can become a new family holiday custom. Choose a special holiday movie to introduce to your kids. Take Care of Yourself. Being on your own during the period after a divorce can be a lonely even depressing time and being alone can feel worse during those first holidays. Enjoy spending time with your children and with friends. Learn to enjoy activities independently and really embrace your time alone. Get professional support as necessary to help you through the major life-change. Keep in Mind Typically nobody’s holidays are perfect. Some important gift is sure to be forgotten or broken or some featured food dish will be ruined. Remind yourself that it needs to be enough for you that you’re doing all you can for your family. Moving children back and forth between homes during the holidays probably can’t be entirely avoided. So use the general checklist above to reduce last-minute holiday rushing excessive stress oversights and errors due to holiday task overload. Planning and preparing in advance is probably the simplest and most effective measure you can take to make the process as easy as possible for the children and adults and to help ensure the smoothest and happiest holiday season with your family. Wall Wall Attorneys at Law P.C. Salt Lake City UT At Wall Wall Attorneys at Law we are proud to be a well-respected Salt Lake City law firm with a professional team of attorneys and staff who help our clients feel comfortable discussing their personal matters during difficult family circumstances. At our Salt Lake City family law office your experienced divorce lawyer will listen carefully to understand your personal situation and will explore all of your options with you and will represent you in court to resolve the matter successfully. Some of the important benefits we offer our clients include: Free 30 min consultation for case review English and Spanish-speaking staff and interpreter services with advanced notice for other languages Military discounts for service members Full-service divorce services DIY Divorce help services For More Information If you need more information or an appointment to talk with a Salt Lake City Utah divorce 3/4

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lawyer contact Wall Wall Attorneys at Law any time. We can help you with all matters involving divorce and family law. We understand that you are probably facing a legal situation that you are unfamiliar with. We are a family-owned law practice and we have been helping our neighbors in Salt Lake City and throughout the greater Salt Lake region since 1973. Give us a call at 801-758-8204 to schedule a free case review today. About Latest Posts Wall Legal Solutions Partner Attorney at Wall Wall Attorneys At Law PC We understand the many complexities surrounding the issues of family law and divorce. We have helped many families throughout the Salt Lake Valley to make educated decisions about their case by providing them with the required legal insight. At Wall and Wall you can rest easy knowing that you have an attorney dedicated to protecting your rights who listen to you attentively and one who is sensitive to the emotions involved. Latest posts by Wall Legal Solutions see all What You Can Do to Keep the Family Holidays Happy During Divorce – October 8 2017 5 Ways Divorced Parents Can Manage Holiday Child Visitation – October 7 2017 7 Tips to Help Guide Your Child Through a High-Conflict Divorce – September 15 2017 4/4

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